I’ve always considered myself a feminist. It surprises me that lately I seem to be in a minority.
We heard a while ago that Beyonce considers herself a “modern day feminist” (she said we needed a new word for it) and Taylor Swift really doesn’t even want you to suggest she’s a feminist. When I was making a list of celebrities who do identify as feminists it… kind of took a while.
I think when people who dislike feminism think of me, I am probably not the feminist crusader they would expect. I like having doors opened for me, and wearing feminine outfits and telling people how special they are in a weird whispery voice (that’s called being nurturing). And sex-angeling people. I am aware that I would probably have to go a pretty far way back in history (to about 1700) to get to a point where being a woman who liked wearing pretty things, and having sex with men when they’re sad, and had a source of income writing funny pieces for ladies would be a problem. Seriously, I think it would be about 1700 where my lifestyle would start to take a hit.
I am also aware that I am not every single woman in the world.
It’s awesome that I have the freedom to wear pretty dresses and be girly. I have never felt those things were really under attack. Mostly because they’re not. People are always fine with women doing traditionally feminine things. And it’s awesome that I can lead a life that makes me happy. It’s also awesome that women can run Fortune 500 companies and be doctors and astronauts if that makes them happy.
(A lot of the time I think I’d be happy as an astronaut, but then I remember how much I don’t really like high places.)
Feminists believe in allowing people the freedom to pursue their own ambitions, regardless of their gender, and to be compensated for their work in a way that is equal to their other co-workers.
And that is why I will always consider myself a feminist. Because I think every woman should have the same freedom a man does to pursue what makes them happy in life.
So it surprises me when other people feel differently. I talked to a few people, and they had the following explanations on why they don’t consider themselves feminists.