On This Edition Of ‘Gwyneth Paltrow’s Bad Advice’: Give Your Husband Blowjobs Instead Of Voicing Feelings


I know what you’re thinking: Why can’t they stop hating on Gwyneth Paltrow? Well, we would also like to do that! We would love it if she didn’t keep saying things that were completely out-of-touch, creating stupid products, wearing bad outfits to advertise said stupid products, wearing bad outfits in general and, of course, creepily marketing children’s bikinis in gross, “sexy” ways. This is not the case, however, as Chelsea Handler just recounted an incident wherein Paltrow recommended to an upset woman that, rather than confront her husband about her feelings, she just give him oral sex instead.

While on Chelsea Lately, Paltrow and Handler begin to discuss how the former is not quite as “perfect” as the latter once assumed. Handler then recalls a dinner party that both were at when another guest discussed being deeply frustrated with her husband. Though the friend wanted to go home and express her anger (they don’t say why she was angry, so I can’t speak to whether or not it was justifiable), Paltrow instead advised otherwise.

“A girl was asking advice, and [Paltrow]‘s an amazing advice giver. And one of our friend’s was like, ‘You know, I got in a big fight with my husband and I just wanted to scream and yell.’ And [Paltrow] was like, ‘Whatever you’re doing, do the opposite. If you feel angry, go at him with love and you give him a blowjob.’”

Uh, while I don’t think you should necessarily scream and yell when you are upset with somebody, I certainly don’t believe that you should give oral sex rather than voicing your thoughts. Shockingly, you can discuss your feelings without yelling and without going down on somebody. And it’s really stupid to advise somebody to only do the latter when (again, shock!) sex doesn’t automatically fix problems.

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    • Candace

      Of all the hating The Gloss does on her, I don’t think I’ve ever read any of you guys address my issue with her:

      WHO DOES HER HAIR AND WHY DOES SHE NEVER EVER HAVE ANY LIFE AT THE ROOTS. Her hair is, like, upsettingly flat.

    • pattya

      this probably won’t be popular but I don’t think its the worst advice in the world. sometimes, sex can chill both you and your partner out. no one is saying that after, when you are both more relaxed, that you can’t express yourself in way that gets your point across in a way that your partner can hear. also, most times fights aren’t really about what they are about. they are usually about needing a connection, yelling and fighting won’t help with that.

      • Fabel

        I’m kiiinda actually with you? (Although this may be because my “ironic” affection for Gwyneth has accidentally become real)

      • http://www.facebook.com/sameurysm Samantha Escobar

        I think it’s the fact that instead of being sex, it’s oral sex — like, when you’re upset about something, you should give somebody pleasure rather than sharing it. Although I’m sure many people enjoy giving oral sex, it didn’t feel like a mutual pleasure advisement.

        (Although I do agree that it can chill you both out!)

      • pattya

        ah, I see your point about the oral. well if you partner will accept head without reciprocating (even when you are fighting) you have a bigger problem on your hands.
        i have to say sometimes doing the opposite of what you feel works out.

    • samantha

      C’mon, she was having a conversation with a friend and said “Come at him with love. Give him a blowjob.” It’s pretty obvious that she was meaning for it to be a joke and not taken seriously. Honestly, if she gave a male friend the same advice, it wouldn’t be perceived in such a negative light.

      It was meant as a joke amongst friends. Did she sit there in agreement? No, she got bashful and giggled. Giving a blowjob, instead of talking your feelings out is just as ridiculous as what most arguments are about.

      But if you do have a problem with this joke, perhaps it shouldn’t be a woman electing to give a blowjob, but the fact that Paltrow didn’t add “and then have him eat you out afterwards.” Because if the dude doesn’t reciprocate, that’s going to be a whole other fight.

    • michbelle

      how does she express that anger – with her teeth? ;op

    • http://www.facebook.com/rachel.wellersdick Rachel Wellersdick

      Dude, SO MUCH hatred toward Gwyneth Paltrow! I really don’t get it. She doesn’t seem pretentious to me at all. She seems like a chill person who is also a flawed human being who says stupid shit and does stupid shit just like the rest of us. She just has more money and a much bigger platform. She’s not evil.

    • Mad Margolin

      You have the audacity to talk ish about Gwyneth Paltrow, but in your next article Farrah Abraham is somehow the epitome of everything good about contemporary women? You’re bizarre, maybe you’ve been putting too much Escobar up your nose.

    • john

      : )

    • l jess

      Listening to advice may have been framed in a different manner – having an angry showdown is a bad situation – try to be loving and when both parties are on good terms, politely bring up your feelings in a way that will lead to empathy and understanding – being married should be 2 people making accommodations for each other