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Award Winning Children’s Author Says We Need YA Sex Scenes To Keep Kids From Copying The Sex In Porn

Malorie Blackman

Hey girl children! Have you ever been exploring your way towards second base with your middle school boyfriend, and he all of the sudden just whips it out and starts trying to cum on your face? Happens all the time. Luckily, there is a solution to this problem, and that solution is realistic, age appropriate literotica.

At least according to YA author Malorie Blackman, the new children’s laureate of England and an all-around awesome and fun lady (just look at that Dr. Ruth-ly smile!) who wants teenagers to get better at doing sex things to each other. “The thing about it is that if you have books for teenagers, you present these ideas within a kind of safe setting,” she recently told The Telegraph UK. She continued:

“I was reading an article three weeks ago where this teenage girl was saying everything her boyfriend knew about sex he knew from porn. He was brutalising her, because that’s what he thought sex was about from watching online. It made me angry and it made me sad. I thought well, this is exactly why we need not just sex education in schools but also books that tackle the subject of relationships and your first time. Otherwise teens and young adults will get their information from somewhere and in this case it was getting it from porn. I would rather my daughter read about a loving sexual relationship in a book – whether it works or whether it doesn’t – but in that context, than getting her information from innuendo and from porn and the rest of it.”

Great Britain’s cool aunt has a point, no? As much as I wish that kids could be a little more discerning about the difference between fantasy and reality, Sasha Grey and Sally, your fifteen-year-old girlfriend, the fact remains that a lot of teens are just not that smart about this stuff. They have no idea what they’re doing, so they’re going to look for answers wherever they can find them, and if the only place they can find them is Xtube, they are going to get answers that are fairly unpleasant for 99% of the teenage girl population. (1% are nasty little freaks who will enjoy said answers.)

So go on, prudish parents, and buy your children that dirty Judy Blume that is banned in your theocratic southern state. I know you don’t want your kids to even think about sex until they are thirty, but actually, they are thinking about sex right now, and Judy Blume, or even Judy Blume plus porn, is way less terrifying than the alternative of porn, just.

(Via The Cut)

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  • Amy Cavender

    I get what you are saying, and agree for the most part, but… “nasty little freaks”? Kind-of a harsh judgement on those girls to whom you were referring.

    • Eileen

      She’s definitely joking.

      And I’m laughing because before I got to the end I was thinking, “Wait, they don’t have ‘Forever,’ by Judy Blume?” Which was definitely my first sex scene, and taught me that the penis is properly known as Ralph.

    • Amy Cavender

      I understand it’s a joke, but it was just sort of jarring and unpleasant.

    • Eileen

      I think it bothered me less because coming from Jamie it’s so obviously sarcastic and affectionate (like, if, say, Ricky Gervais were to make a comment about “godless heathens”). But I see where everyone’s coming from, because if someone else had written it I would have thought the same thing.

    • Densla

      I agree. It may have been a joke, but…it can be very difficult for girls whose sexuality doesn’t naturally tend towards all roses and soft touches. That was harsh, too harsh.

    • m.brown

      I’m inclined to agree. Despite my interest in BDSM from a relatively young age, I would have been quite offended had I read this when it applied to me.

  • kissadb

    I am assuming you are talking about Summer Sisters… Loved that book as a teen. And as a teen my daughter could also read it. She will be taught many boundaries though and what is right and wrong and the rest she has to learn on her own. oh lord help me

  • Amy Cavender

    I think that Tamora Pierce has some great books with appropriate/positive adolescent romance and sexuality mixed in with a lot of other good things.

    • Amy Cavender

      (with the best part being that those are shown as a part of life, not the sole focus of the story and the only way for a girl or woman to have meaning in her life)

    • ElleJai

      Tamora Pierce is required reading in my house lol, I love her work and have DP in the middle of reading through Mastiff as I type. My son will be exposed as he gets older too.

  • Purple

    “(1% are nasty little freaks who will enjoy said answers.)” This sentence is slut-shaming and sexist. It does not have a place in what was an otherwise good article. Please remove it. Remember conscious or not, even a bad joke contributes to our society devaluing women who don’t fit the Puritan mold. Women can own their sexuality no matter what it is and what they may or may not like is not for you to put down.

    • m

      It’s quite obviously a joke, and as “a nasty little freak” myself, I actually found it funny.

    • lond3

      sorry but if you enjoy a man c#mming on your face or f-ing you in the a@@ then you are not valuing yourself as a woman. please.

    • Marbran

      No, you just aren’t doing it right.

    • Alyssa

      Uh nope. If you’re into that sexually, as a woman, you should be able to freely express that. Telling women what they should and should not do in the bedroom is not okay. Telling women that they should feel bad about themselves for what they do or don’t do in the bedroom is wrong. By telling women they should feel less valuable because they’re into anal or like it when a guy ejaculates on their face is basically slut shaming.

    • colleen prinssen

      even if the woman is 14. man I wasted my life with video games.

    • jack_sprat2

      What if he enjoys turnabout, hmm?

  • debbie

    The “nasty little freaks” comment really jarred me as well. As someone who would definitely refer to my teenage self (and current) self as a nasty little freak I’m not *really* offended by it, and I can tell the author was trying to be funny, but it certainly took me out of the article and made me go check to author’s name it see if it was written by an known misogynist.

  • jai

    There’s a gap to fill between the representation of sex in school and in porn, and it would be awesome if books could fill that gap. Literotica for the win.

    • jack_sprat2

      I can’t help thinking that the epidemic of abusive teachers isn’t traceable more or less directly to Literotica, et al. I mean, there’ve always been male teachers who got busy, but few of them entertain romantic fantasies about children. Fantasies should retain an edge, so that vulnerable minds don’t normalize statutory rape.

  • JLR

    I am…okay with this.

    “Have you ever been exploring your way towards second base with your
    middle school boyfriend, and he all of the sudden just whips it out and
    starts trying to cum on your face?”

    Actually, yes. Or something similar. I’m in my 30′s now, but when I started to become sexually active, back around age 15 or, that is basically what my boyfriend did, and then shamed me because I wasn’t responding the way women in did in porn. (there was other abuse too. Not getting into that here)

    However well intentioned, these books are only going to work if they are read, you know? My high school boyfriend was proud of never reading. So, that being said, I guess a good follow-up message to middle-and-high schoolers would be “Don’t do it it with someone who doesn’t read.”

  • chey

    I think that as long as it is age appropriate, it shouldn’t be a nesesarily bad thing, keeping it very suttle and tasteful

  • noelle 02

    Phyllis Reynolds Naylor is seriously more up to date, informative, detailed, and tasteful than Judy Bloom. I second someone’s recommendation of Tamora Pierce too.

  • colleen prinssen

    woohoo. lets make sure it contains 13 year olds. to satsify the lolicon loving people.

    60 shades of let’s pretend.

  • jack_sprat2

    “1% are nasty little freaks who will enjoy said answers.”

    Tumblr! Everybody knows that some guys have odd sexual things floating around in their minds, but yeesh! The women who are into it are often very, very scary; way more so, because they scan as committed or willing to take it to the limit. I find myself thinking that any number of them would’ve happily joined Squeaky Fromme, Caril Ann Fugate, or Karla Homolka.