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How Not To Respond To Wedding Gifts You Don’t Like

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Over at Jezebel, there is a story that will make you never want to go to a wedding again. Basically, a couple gave newlyweds a food basket. It sounds delicious. The gift giver says:

As a gift, my Girlfriend and I gave [the couple] a wicker box with a hinged lid, filled with food items, most of them PC Black Label, including: tri-color pasta, salsas, Balsamic vinegar and Olive, Gourmet croutons, Panko Breading, Pesto, some baking ingredients, Biscuits from Godiva and a few ‘Fun’ items like Marshmallow Fluff, Sour Patch Kids and Butterscotch sauce.”

Look. THAT SOUNDS LIKE A GREAT GIFT. Who doesn’t like Marshamllow fluff? Everyone. Everyone likes Marshmallow fluff. Except for this insane couple who, upon receiving the gift, asked for a receipt. By saying:

I’m not sure if it’s the first wedding you have been to, but for your next wedding… People give envelopes. I lost out on $200 covering you and your dates plate… And got fluffy whip and sour patch kids in return Just a heads up for the future :)

Do not end things with a smiley face when situations do not merit a smiley face. Perhaps at this moment you might be thinking, “Did this newlywed view the wedding not as a celebration of love, but as a money making scheme? That’s madness!” No, they totally did. They actually did that. When the gift giver explained that you don’t really get to pick your wedding gifts, the newlywed replied:

Again… Out of 210 people at a wedding… The only I gift I got from all was yours… And fluffy whip and sour patch kids. Your Facebook message had nothing to do with the gift. Weddings are to make money for your future.. Not to pay for peoples meals. Do more research. People haven’t gave gifts since like 50 years ago! You ate steak, chicken, booze, and a beautiful venue.

If that is the only person who took the time to put together an actual gift, that is absolutely tragic. As is following up your wedding by berating guests about gifts. Just promise me that when you get married – if you are not already – you will accept the delicious marshmallow whip with open arms, okay? Just do that.

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  • Stephanie Colonna

    I agree completely!! How rude, if they were more worried about the gifts and money, why didn´t they just skip havinga a party and saved the money. It seems like a lot of people are turning in to Bridezillas.

  • Sean

    I hate it when people are dicks about stuff like that. I try to avoid going to weddings where the underlying reason for your attendance is to finance their lives.

    Man, when I get married, I’m only inviting the number of people I and my fiancé can afford to cover, and if they want to get us something, fine. Preferably (and I’ve thought long and hard about this), I would suggest that they donate an amount they can afford to a children’s hospital or something. I would be far more flattered if they did that than bought a salad spinner.

    • Cari

      “Preferably (and I’ve thought long and hard about this), I would suggest that they donate an amount they can afford to a children’s hospital or something. ”
      I went to a wedding recently where the happy couple gave that suggestion. It was pretty neat alternative to all the stress that otherwise comes with gift-giving :)

  • Amanda

    How repulsive. A gift is exactly what it is, it’s a GIFT, not an obligation. They should be happy they got anything at all.

  • Francesca

    so, having just been through my own wedding. this pisses me off. every gift is amazing. from the money to the thoughtful gift basket. weddings aren’t about money. sure – you get gifts. but damnit, the day was about marrying my best friend and throwing a ridiculously awesome and fun party with our closest friends and family. get a grip brides.

    • Sean

      Congrats on the wedding!

    • Francesca

      thanks!

  • Cee

    Weddings are not for guests to give you money for the future. If making money for the future is an issue, you should not have spent $20,000 on guests. Guests are not obligated to break even with your expenses, guests are there to celebrate your relationship, that is all. But now lgbt couples have the same entitlement problems straights do… Equality!

    As someone already cohabitating with my bride to be, if asked for gifts, Id ask for cosco or restaurant gift cards or booze. Basics, date nights and alcohol!

  • Daniela

    Okay, first of all – people still give gifts, or else wedding registries wouldn’t exist any more. So, that’s a fail right there.

    Secondly – based on the stuff listed, that gift basket could easily have cost the couple at least $200. The bride kept going on and on about the ‘cheap’ stuff, but said nothing about the Godiva and other foods.

  • Jessica

    Maybe the bride can “research” how to be a gracious host, so the next time someone goes out of their way to not only attend her party, but to bring a thoughtful gift, she does not make them feel bad for doing so.

    Seriously, 2 out 200 people didn’t give her envelopes full of cash…that must be really hard to cope with.

  • Maria

    But guys, they got to eat a beautiful venue!

  • Holly

    This makes me really uncomfortable! I can’t even stand to be in the room when someone slightly snubs a Christmas or Birthday present. My mind can’t accept that someone actually did this. There has to be more to it. They have to have had a fight or something afterward. Otherwise my world just doesn’t make sense. That gift sounds amazing. While we were appreciative of the 1,000 bucks we ended up getting from gifts here and there, we used that on our honeymoon and had none of it by the time we got home. That’s fine. That’s what we planned on using money for. A gift like that, though, would have been really memorable and special. Also, full of yums.

    I had something else to say but now I’m distracted by the ad next to this that shows a guinea pig and asks me if it is a cat or not a cat.

  • MrsN

    I was never so humbled as I was on my wedding day when I saw family & friends, who lived across the country, sitting & waiting for me to walk down the aisle. I was thrilled that my new husband & I were able to throw an awesome party, serve great good & listen to kickass music. I can’t imagine writing a “note” as vile as that to any of my guests.
    Karma will catch up with that Bridezilla. I’d have to reply to her & explain where she can put that lovely basket of goodies.

  • no princess

    i totally know what that is like. Years ago when one of my sisters got married, she turned into an even bigger princess. She sent me an email with a list of 3 very expensive gifts, 1000$ kitchen appliance, 700$ place setting or a 450$ vegetable serving platter. I grew up with her, I know she doesn’t not even eat or serve that many vegetables. (she also asked family members to buy her a 5000$ pot and pan set ???) Anyway I went to Canadian Tire and spent 60$ on a set of 4 cute place settings of vintage looking corn flake and rice krispies breakfast set, cereal bowl, small plate and large mugs. She collects vintage coca cola items and has a room in her house dedicated to them. I bought them because I thought she would like them not because of how much they cost. Long story short, we have a video of her crying and screaming about how cheap her guests were with the cash, mind you she still had all the checks and gift cards to add up, and the room full of gifts to open. She too thought the cash would cover all her elaborate wedding expenses. Last time I checked people get married because they love each other, not because they want their family and friends to pay off their mortgage.

  • Jackson

    Weddings are profit-generating investments? Really? Wow, I got screwed! This sounds like bridezilla got so used to being the princess during the planning that she woke up the next day desperately groping for a sense of special-ness, so she got nasty with the least-deserving person she could find. Ta-da! Princess-hood restored … until she became Internet infamous for being a biznatch.