When the now-infamous Girls episode, “One Man’s Trash,” premiered a few months ago there were two major aspects that people paid attention to: 1. The impossibility that Lena Dunham’s character Hannah could have possibly scored with Patrick Wilson’s character, and 2. Hannah’s desire to want everything.
“I’m not different. I want what everyone wants. I want what they all want. I want all the things.”
The former concern aside, because yes, Hannah could totally nail such a looker and we’re done debating it, is whether or not it’s selfish to “want all the things.” Was it just another example of Dunham’s character displaying her self-involved entitlement, or is it OK to want everything?
Call me crazy, but I think it’s more than OK to want everything. In fact, you should never, ever apologize because you want all the things. I’d say it’s more disturbing if you didn’t want everything. How would you ever move onward and upward, if you didn’t want for anything? How would you reach feelings of success, if you hadn’t started with the initial step of wanting it?
The word “want” is often synonymous with greed. It’s OK to “need” something, as its necessary to you in some way, but “want” can come off as extravagant. With so many people not getting what they need, who the hell are you to want anything? Can you really justify that you’re worthy of having it all? Do you actually believe you deserve it? Hell, yes. We all deserve all the things.
People who want everything are not wrong, or even remotely selfish. They are, instead, goal oriented, and the type of people who get off on having standards and holding themselves to those standards. Once you hit the mark you’ve always wanted, you set the bar a little bit higher, and keep moving up. It’s this type of mentality that propels us forward physically, mentally and emotionally. It’s called the stepping-stones of life.
As kids, it’s instilled in us that dreams do have the possibility of coming true if we work hard or, in other words, want for them. You can’t land that ideal job, find yourself in a perfect relationship, or live the life you always dreamed you’d have if you didn’t set the bar in the first place. The life you have today, both the good and the bad, would not exist if there wasn’t some level of want in there along the way. To want is to be human.
If you lived your whole life and never had a want, you would have missed the boat. If you never thought for one second that you want and deserve everything, then you’re selling yourself short. You may not get everything that you feel you should have, but to not want to have had them seems like a stagnant way to exist. You’re not fighting for anything; you’re just allowing yourself to be tossed along in the tides at the whim of those around you like a sheep that gets in line and isn’t even sure for what the line is. You would be clueless, colorless, and, frankly, blah. No one likes blah people, you guys.
Think of how the world would be if people didn’t want everything. With today being the 44th anniversary of the Stonewall riots, if those gay men and women had settled, and not realized that they deserved everything through wanting it, we would not have seen the historic overturning of DOMA this past week.
You have every right to want everything. You have every right to try to get everything. You even, dare I say it, deserve everything, and if someone feels you should apologize for that, they’re in the wrong. You should never apologize for wanting, nor should you allow people to convince you that you’re selfish or self-involved because of it. Great things are not attained without want.
To quote football player Vince Lombardi, “Winning isn’t everything, but wanting to win is.”
I think that sums up this topic perfectly. So now go off into the world, my darlings, and want a lot.