And The Kinkiest City In The United States Is…

give me the kinky goodsGuess.

Seriously. I want you to guess. Rack your brain, think of the kinkiest people you know and where they reside. New York City? Los Angeles? Some Podunk town in Kansas somewhere? Where, oh where, could they be?

They’re in Phoenix, Arizona, you guys.

To the best of my knowledge, Arizona has an awful lot of retirees. Does this mean your mom and dad, or Grammy and Grampy are getting their freak on morning, noon and night? God, I hope so.

SeekingArrangements.com, the website that matches sugar babies and sugar daddies, discovered, via one of those handy dandy surveys that, once again thanks to Fifty Shades of (why are we still talking about this book?) Grey, those seeking some good ol’ fashioned BDSM has doubled in Phoenix. With a 96.2% increase in those looking to vamp up their sex life with dom/sub hook-ups, Phoenix is at the top of the kink list, and San Francisco, isn’t far behind.

So who else is seeing the biggest increase in the kink?

1. Phoenix, Ariz.: 96.2 percent

2. San Francisco, Calif.: 95 percent

3. Detroit, Mich.: 50.5 percent

4. Indianapolis, Ind.: 49.7 percent

5. Las Vegas, Nev.: 44.4 percent

6. San Jose, Calif.: 42.3 percent

7. Philadelphia, Pa: 42.6 percent

8. Tampa, Fla.: 40 percent

9. San Diego, Calif.: 37 percent

10. Los Angeles, Calif.: 33.3 percent

What the fuck, New Yorkers? Where the hell are you on this list? No nipple clamps, or bamboo paddles for you? Step it up, kids.

Do you live in one of the kinkiest cities? Is this list fairly accurate, or a bunch of bunk? How many people actually even use nipple clamps?

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    • http://ThePeppercat.com/ Candace

      I can’t afford nipple clamps. I pay $2000 for a one-bedroom apartment.

      • Sean

        Steal some binder clips from work, or from your local store. They make a decent alternative.

      • Melina Rose Thompson

        so do gator clips depending on what or whom you maybe toying with or seeking to draw a bit more then the flesh in a bind , clothespins also work pretty good and a package of 20 costs exactly one dollar at your neighborhood Dollar tree .

      • Amanda Chatel

        That makes two of us…

      • Guest

        Clothes pins work well!

      • Joe knows who I am.

        Try clothes pins. They’ve worked for me for years and are way cheaper and easier to get.

    • Juliana D.

      I’d like to point out that the percentages represent how much it has INCREASED. So maybe certain cities aren’t on the list, not because they aren’t kinky, but because they were already so kinky, that there wasn’t much room for an increase? Just a thought…

      • Mark Hipps

        agree was thinking the same thing

      • sam

        ditto… poorly written. to push the message that increase over a stupid book has anything to do with real numbers especially when a sugar daddy website is doing the reporting.

    • brokennails

      I agree with another commenter that this list indicates the amount of increase, instead of total numbers. We here in SF are the home to Kink.com and the Folsom Street Fair, so I think we’re still pretty high on the list…! ;-)

    • Sarah Jewel

      Nipple clamps are a good time man………………… DC is a pretty kinky town but none of those folks would be honest on a survey

    • Misenhammer

      Well, I did recently become aware that my state is tops in producing Furry costumes, so… Go Arkansas, I guess.

    • Dakra

      Having lived in Phoenix for 20 years, I’d say these numbers are pretty accurate. We have a lot of activities going on in the BDSM area, from pub crawls to quarterly fetish balls, several pansexual BDSM organizations, Southwest Leather Conference and much more. Phoenix is ranked 5th in the nation in the percentage of GLBT people as well, with a third of the population in central Phoenix gay or lesbian (I’m gay and kinky – so I hit both demographics). We have over 30 gay bars and one of the biggest Gay Pride celebrations in the spring (and another in the fall called Rainbows Festival). The leather community here is quite substantial, even though we are the hottest major city in North America. Arizona may be a silly red sea of conservatives outside of central Phoenix, but the core city is a bright blue pulsating ball of fun that is growing yearly. Sunburns aren’t the only thing to get your skin red here. :)

    • Devina

      It’s funny they mention seekingarangements.com – the reason we are the top for those relationships is mostly due to the crazy amount of college students we have here due to ASU. But I guess that still makes us “kinky”. I’ve always thought AZ to have an incredible amount of diversity, and I’ve personally met a large amount of BDSM/ industrial type folks here so i’m not even surprised!

    • Kittymama

      If it counts people who are having sex and also beating the crap out of each other, Phoenix will stay on top for a long time.

    • http://www.Bliss-Radio.com/ Chrystal Bougon

      I sell sex toys online and have for 10 years. I get the MOST orders from a city called Surprise, AZ. I am so serious! And I live in the Bay Area. Not surprised at all to see San Francisco and San Jose in the top 10 of the cities who are kinki-ER. :)

      • K

        surprise is where all those retirees live.

      • megs

        Surprise is a strong mixture of retirees and young families lol I would say 55% retiree 45 young family :)

    • BKSir

      I’m sort of surprised that Salt Lake City isn’t on this list…

    • Cassandra Renee Snyder

      Hah I knew it, that was my first guess!!!!! The Passion Party Business (and other at home businesses that sell sex toys is booming there no matter what time of the year!

    • Alan Duval

      Juliana said exactly what I was thinking.

    • Tread

      Kink has become trendy. Most that say they are into it aren’t. The just want to go to the parties, act all counter culture, and wear a collar. They are as vanilla as ice cream.

      • Mike

        Isn’t that pretty much true of any activity/lifestyle that becomes a pop-culture fad? People will do anything to be known and accepted, except get to know and accept themselves.

    • asshole

      your grammar sucks OP

    • Marta L.

      It makes sense to me that these cities would show the biggest increases since most of them probably seem fairly familiar – they are an “untapped market” as it were, and also probably have a few people admitting they do kink who always did.

      All of which makes me wonder just what’s going on in San Francisco. I always thought of them as libertine before.

      • SyntheticPhylum

        Like an earlier commenter said, this article talks about the INCREASE of kink in a community, NOT the already-established level… SF was already extremely kinky, so I’m fairly sure we’ve still got Phoenix beat!

      • Marta L.

        The thing that made me smile was SF is already so kinky, I can imagine there not being much room for growth. If they can still add on enough kinksters to make a list on increases, that’s impressive indeed.

      • SyntheticPhylum

        Well, once SF itself became too densely populated for there to be room for any MORE kinksters, we spread out to the suburbs of San Mateo County! We can still get to SF for the parties and clubs, at least!

    • Detroit

      i live in detroit haha

      • JimV

        Nothing to laugh about unless you want to take up farming in some of the cleared areas. Extending the decline in population trend, you should be reincorprating as a village befoer long..

    • http://www.cafepress.com/bulliesforromney Bullies For Romney

      Phoenix, Arizona? I figure it would be too hot for all that leather.

      • docford47

        “But it’s a DRY heat…….”

        (That’s going to be my gravestone legend)

    • Eric

      Really? Did we really need to waste internet space on this?

    • Ben

      Detroit makes sense, if Rape is considered kinky

      • Jackie

        Detroit makes sense…because it makes sense. There is a ton of fetish clubs and events in Michigan and Detroit is the epicenter of it all.

    • Bobbi

      I lived in San Diego for 7 years and can confirm that yes, it’s definitely up there. :) Participated and witnessed. It was fun.

    • ThomasSmith

      Interesting list of cities. The only surprise to me is Indianapolis. Having lived in the area I did not find the Midwest, particularly Indianapolis, to be all that kinky.

    • PHX

      I have to say I was shocked that PHX not only made the list, but I never would have guessed #1. I think it’s great we made #1, but I don’t think we’ve earned it yet. When you have Fetish events that don’t demand a strict dress code, it’s not a fetish event for me. I’ve been to many of the cities, many times on the list, as I travel for events. And I certainly think many deserve to be there. However don’t be duped into thinking the fun only happens on the coasts. San Francisco, New York, South Florida are all great fun, but they are NOT the benchmark for quality as they like to claim. Certainly Folsom and Kink.com are big names for that city, provided you enjoy leather. If you’re a latex fetishist as I am, don’t expect much. And I’m every bit as much a BDSM player as I am a fetishists, so you can’t accuse me of being the “stand and model type”. But I enjoy latex, and the leather chaps and vest with the obligatory dual floggers over the shoulders, only makes me laugh now. This list is a fine list for someone just starting out, but for those in the “know”, know better.

    • Mike

      I honestly don’t get it. People have been pushing the boundaries of sex since time began, and yet here we are in the 21st century acting like it’s a brand new discovery. People are overly obsessed with all things sex.

    • Doug Nusbaum

      Gotta love stupid. there is so much of it. Take 5 apples, and 20 apples. Now increase the 5 by 100%. Increase the 20 by 10%. Which pile has more apples? For those of you who are math challenged (republicans) the pile that went from 5 to ten still has fewer apples than the pile that went from 20 to 22.

      Amanda — go back top school. And take your boss, the one who approved this article with you. The 5th grade might be a good place to start.