• Fri, Aug 23 - 10:41 am ET

Only The Fashionably Frugal Deserve To Get Married, Sorry

the thrifty make better loversBecause dating wasn’t hard enough, and trying to find the “One,” wasn’t exactly the near-impossible task that it is, we now have yet another concern when it comes to putting ourselves out there in the dating world. What is it? Oh, just that your spending habits play a big role in whether or not someone finds you attractive. Le sigh.

It seems that love these days is actually all about the almighty dollar. Not only do we have people out there on dating services that reveal your credit score to a prospective interested party (because low credit scores are ugly, you guys), but now just why and how you spend YOUR money is coming into play, too.

The recent findings on this matter were published in a paper entitled, “A Penny Saved is a Partner Earned: The Romantic Appeal of Savers,” by the University of Michigan’s Ross School of Business. In it, 282 adults were asked to check out the dating profiles of spenders and savers, then rank them from one to seven in regards to how they saw these people as being compatible to themselves. The study found that it was the savers who scored higher than the spenders, you know, because money is for saving and not spending. Yeah, you just think about that long and hard the next time you want to drop a few hundred bucks on a pair of shoes… or wine, or dinner, or, well, anything.

What it comes down to is the presumed self-control on the part of the saver. If you can control yourself in a store full of Manolos, then you’re probably the type to stay in line in all other parts of your life. What I’m gathering from this is that the fashionably frugal of the world are less likely to be tempted by the flesh, and therefore will not be cheaters. Eye roll.

They survey’s authors, Jenny Olson and Scott Rick, said savers tend to exhibit a larger sense of self-control, which can comfort a potential partner and often translates into self-control in other aspects of life, such as dieting and exercise. Conversely, excessive spending suggests a tendency toward irresponsible behavior.

Oh, and apparently you’re less likely to pack on the weight because you’re not going to reach for dessert number two. But isn’t life about dessert number two? If there was a memo stating otherwise, I certainly didn’t get it.

Takeaway? Stop spending money now if you’d like to land a partner for life. The only way to secure true love is if you save, save, save. I guess this means you can kiss your new fall wardrobe goodbye… oh, and that second piece of pumpkin pie, too.

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  • Sean

    First of all, there’s always room for more pie Amanda, but I think the bottom line they’re trying to reach is it’s important to recognize that for the cost of that second slice of pie, you can buy a whole pie at the grocery store, take it home, and eat it together in a wild orgy of flesh, wine, and doughy pie filling. :)

    • Amanda Chatel

      Thank you, dear Sean, for seeing what I didn’t see. As always, you are correct.

    • Sean

      I’m definitely not always correct, but I understand where they’re going with their idea of frugality. It’s not being cheap and never spending money, it’s about spending money for maximum return, and those people are the ones most likely to lead to emotional stability through financial stability.

    • Tania

      Or to be like me, and live my life through well-organized spreadsheets.

      Or like my mother, who enters in her grocery expenses by item. She is like, the most accountantest accountant ever.

    • Sean

      I’m sure she’s a lovely person, but that’s a bit extreme.

    • Tania

      Oh, yes. I love organization as well, I mean, she is my mother, but when I budget for my groceries, I use totals.

  • Tania

    Are irresponsible spenders irresponsible in all walks of life because they’re big spenders, or are they big spenders because they’re irresponsible in every walk of life?

    • Amanda Chatel

      That sounds like a riddle… because I haven’t had enough coffee. I’ll have to get back to you on that one.