Crowdsourcing: Is Selling Your Wedding Gifts Socially Acceptable?

wedding gifts

Despite my impulsivity and the fact that I was in Las Vegas three days ago, I have somehow managed to not get married. The majority of my friends have not yet been married, either. Therefore, I am more than a little unknowledgeable when it comes to the idea of wedding etiquette (wediquette?), but I was still pretty shocked when I read that a recent study discovered 8 out of 10 couples had sold their wedding gifts.

British gift card company One4all conducted a survey revealing 82 percent of couples admit to selling their gifts from guests on sites like eBay. While I already had the inclination that plenty did so, I am just surprised it’s such a high percentage of people who have done it — but I think it is, in some way, understandable.

First of all, the list that the Daily Mail included in its article on the topic involves more than a few gifts that should probably never have been given (so props on getting rid of ‘em, couples). These include, but are not limited to:

  • A coat hanger from a reputable hotel
  • A duck shaped egg bowl
  • A banana
  • 50 cents

Don’t get me wrong; I love tarantulas. But, guys: do not give live pets for weddings. Do not do it. It is not cool and unique and memorable. It is terrifying and, in all likelihood, an awful idea.

Now, regardless of how whack the presents received are, I still find the idea of selling your wedding gifts to be pretty acceptable in its own way. If you receive four toasters by accident, giving away or selling a couple of them is understandable; it would be more wasteful to just let them sit, rusting away in the corner of your kitchen cabinet because you’re afraid of a perceived break in manners.

Honestly, I think my biggest issue with weddings is the emphasis put on gifts and gaudiness over the actual love and union, in general, so the idea of a friend selling a wedding gift I bought for them — barring some incredibly sentimental present like a personally-done painting — is not actually that bad. I would want my friends to have an easier start together because of the money they received; I would want them to be able to utilize my gift to the best of its powers.

At the same time, I can certainly see how this would be an issue for many people. So, I ask you, dear readers!

Is it okay to sell your wedding gifts?

View Results

Loading ... Loading ...

Photo: project hotsauce / Flickr

Share This Post:
    • Cee

      I think its acceptable. I already have most, if not all the appliances I could ask for. That said though, I would make it a point to say this on the invitation and that restaurant gift cards or cash would be preferable. That way I wouldn’t feel like a jerk for selling everyone’s gifts. I wouldn’t sell anything uniquely personal, but an appliance? Sure. I don’t even know if I would ever use a gravy boat for globsakes!

      • Debby

        I too think it’s acceptable to sell gifts or to return for store credit. However, instructing guests as to what gifts are preferred, outside of a registry, is very tacky to me, and based on the weddings I’ve attended, not a common practice. I’m less put off by registering for rental cars, excursions, gift cards for the honeymoon than someone telling me cash or restaurant gift cards on the invite is preferred.

    • Sean

      I don’t know, I’m weird about selling your wedding gifts, but I’m ok with returning them for store credit if they were bought off a registry.

      • Cee

        Yes! That too. Gift receipts, please!

    • Anonachocolatemousse

      We received two salad spinners as gifts and because you can make sooooo much money from a salad spinner, we gave one to a thrift store.

      I think if you got a duplicate of something or something truly hideous, go ahead and sell it. It’s a gift and once in your possession it’s yours and therefore you can do what you wish with it. That’s why I like to give money or gift cards. :)