Given all the glitz, glamour and obsession surrounding models, it is hard to imagine those women experiencing anything but charmed lives. However, supermodel and Victoria’s Secret‘s beloved Angel Miranda Kerr feels differently. In her interview with Cosmopolitan for the magazine’s November issue, she discusses the negative attitudes models can have about themselves.
“There was so much rejection in the beginning. Models are some of the most insecure people I’ve ever met. They’re constantly being told they’re not good enough. You’ve really got to practice loving yourself.”
When I used to read about a model saying that career choice was difficult on her self esteem, I would roll my eyes. How is that even possible? I would think. Given how many “normal” women have wound up with self esteem as the result of their industry, don’t they feel lucky? “Their industry” being the fashion industry, as though it belonged to models.
Then, of course, I have to remember that models experience rejection (professionally and, like the rest of us, socially). The only difference between most of us not getting jobs and them not getting jobs is that their work primarily depends on looks — not intelligence, not ingenuity, not skills developed at a computer or in school. Yes, models need to have ambition and an entirely different skill set, but anybody who claims modeling isn’t hugely based on appearance is being absurd and is invited to point me in the direction of 5 runway shows that weren’t primarily, if not exclusively, consisting of tall, thin white people with generally clear skin, full heads of hair and straight, white teeth. To be a model and not necessarily fit into all of those categories — and, sometimes, even if you do — must be deeply frustrating when facing rejection.
Kerr also said this, which I found a little conflicting:
“Don’t feel like you have to do and be everything. Let the man do some things for you, because if he cares for you, he will want to. When I get home, I’m not the boss like I am at work – I slip into a more feminine role. I take everything off and put on my Stella McCartney silk robe. I’ll put on a red lip or red nails, and it lifts my mood. Sexy underwear also gives you a spark.”
I agree regarding the first sentence: you shouldn’t feel obligated to be “everything,” because then you would be a doctor, fisher and architect who knits and joggles simultaneously, and that’s just too many activities and occupations to handle!
But seriously, who says being “the boss” is unfeminine? Did I suddenly miss the part where you can be a woman and in charge of things? No, wait, I did miss that. By being born after the 1950s.