Last week, I told you all about how I was trying to like myself a little better by focusing on one positive thing about my appearance. At first I had been unsure that trying to find one small positive aspect of my physical appearance would have any effect, since I tend to live by the idea that hating yourself is the ticket to a good time. But reading the incredible comments you all left really threw me for a loop. I do feel better. I wouldn’t say I’m a Kanye West-style paragon of positive self esteem, but I feel like I’ve had fewer negative thoughts this week. It’s a step forward. And now I want you to get in on the action.
Reading about what my colleagues liked about their bodies and all of your wonderful comments did empower me to feel like it would be okay to like even more of myself than just my skin, and maybe even one day love all of myself.
Commenter MammaSweetPea had an excellent idea. She suggested that we post what our significant others think is our most beautiful feature. I wanted to open that up a bit to include significant others and best friends. While I’m of the opinion that it shouldn’t matter what other people think of you and your body, but I am also a human person who craves validation and reassurance from other people. I also think there’s nothing wrong with not only complimenting yourself but also making the people in your life feel loved.
Amy Poehler has an excellent video series called Ask Amy, which is mostly advice for young teens but I think people of any age can benefit from her words. She advises that the next time you are feeling terribly about yourself, pretend you are talking to your daughter, or little sister. I think that can apply to your best friend as well, and it’s a brilliant notion that never occurred to me. I’m not lying when I tell my sister or best friend that I think she’s beautiful, and I don’t think they’re lying when they tell me the same thing. If we can all learn to talk to ourselves the way our best friend would, I think we’d all spend a lot less time self loathing and actually begin to see ourselves in a positive light.
Here’s what I’m proposing: Find your best friend or significant other, just somebody who is important to you. Send me an email with either:
a. what body parts you find the most beautiful about him/her
b. what body parts he/she finds the most beautiful about you
or both! If you are so inclined, send me a photo of you both as well. My email address is email@example.com.
Next week, I’ll put all of these compliments/things people love about you into a post, along with contributions from The Gloss staff and their best friends/significant others.
I can’t wait to see what you all send in, and again, my email is firstname.lastname@example.org.
Photo: Sam Johnson