Proof That Online Dating Is For Winners

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Have you tried online dating? I know. This survey already told me.

The Pew Internet & American Life Project, a self-described “fact tank” that “provides information on the issues, attitudes, and trends shaping America and the world,” has published a new study showing 38% of single American adults who are looking for a partner have used online dating sites.

The study also finds that 65% of people who have tried one of these sites have gone out IRL with someone they met there, and that an astounding 23% of online daters have married or committed long-term to people they met online.

But don’t go thinking everyone’s okay with OKCupid. Despite huge success rate, the survey finds that only 59% of internet users agree with the statement that “online dating is a good way to meet people.” What’s scaring off the remaining 41%? Is the Lifetime Original Movie The Craigslist Killer still weighing on people’s minds? And The Wife He Met Online? And The Boy She Met Online? And TalhotBlond? Never mind. I’ve just done my own study and concluded that any remaining stigma is Lifetime’s fault.

The Pew Internet website states,

“In general, online daters themselves give the experience high marks. Some 79% of online daters agree that online dating is a good way to meet people, and 70% of them agree that it helps people find a better romantic match because they have access to a wide range of potential partners.”

I guess the unsatisfied former online daters had a similar experience to mine, wherein they kept a profile up for a week, received 14 messages asking “you horny?” and convinced themselves that each and every person without a display photo was a Craigslist Killer in training.

Either way, the romantic climate is obviously changing. Good luck to the now-married online daters! And, of course, good luck to those brave souls still out there in the eHarmony trenches.

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    • Scarlettmer

      I write this while sitting in the apartment of my boyfriend, who I met on Plenty of Fish. We never would have met without online dating. We both went online at the behest of our friends who were pretty much fed up with us. For me, online dating was scary and at times depressing. But it forced me to step out of my comfort zone and opened up a world of men who I simply would not have been able to meet with my 6 day workweek and in this city of over 5 million people.

      I realize that we are very lucky – and certainly not the norm. He is not the first man I met or went out with from a dating site. I dated a very nice man briefly – but there wasn’t any chemistry. I hope he meets someone with whom he does have chemistry. I was lucky in that I did not encounter any “creeps”. Some of the men were less well socialized, and those dates were frustrating. There was one definitely obnoxious date.

      Had I not decided to be less the person I normally am (cranky and suspicious) I would never have been open to my BF. Also, I am the very opposite of the women he has dated and (once) married. We both decided to be open and take chances and here we are.

      I would marry him tomorrow if he asked.

    • justpeachie

      A couple of coworkers met their partners on Match, so I decided to try it out. I work in a very female dominated profession and didn’t like the idea of dating at work. I met my husband online and through word of mouth other friends met their significant others. Amongst my acquaintances there are seven couples, all who met online. Four years later, six of the seven are married, and three of the couples have kids or are expecting. Most of us would never have met our partners through traditional means of dating. Some will come clean that they met online, others, not so much. I think there’s no shame in dating online. :)

    • TheHeartographer

      I met my husband on Craigslist, which was way more usable in 2005 (the last Pew Report) than it is now. And now I’m an online dating coach! It’s fun to see the landscape change so much, but I really wish they did more frequent studies with larger samples.