Bullish: Should You Channel Your Sexual Energy Into Your Goals? (Wait, What?)

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Jennifer Dziura writes career and life advice on TheGloss and headquartered on GetBullish.com.

It’s well-known that a lot of male boxers don’t have sex before a fight. Apparently, a nice, full set of balls gives you that aggressive edge in the ring.

What do women boxers do? I like to think they seduce a pool boy at the hotel every hour or so and steal his fundamental life-energy. Or they have sex with their girlfriends, read some bell hooks, have a nice cup of herbal tea, and get a good night’s sleep.

Should you channel your sexual energy into your goals? Are women’s sex drives a channelable force in this way?

So — warning, massive gender essentialism ahead! — the Asian Efficiency blog ran a post entitled Sex, Productivity and Motivation Part 04: Sexual Energy and Transmutation. It’s hilarious. Bullish readers on the Facebook page agreed. Let’s start with this:

As far as we know, Napoleon Hill’s book Think and Grow Rich is the modern granddaddy of all theory on sexual energy. Sure, the whole idea of conserving sexual energy does go back further to Taoist and other Eastern traditions, but the first widespread, modern record is from Hill.
There are a couple of interesting things about what Hill wrote:
▪ He never actually tells you what to do, but does wax lyrical and skirt around the topic a lot.
▪ He only talks about men.
▪ When talking about Think and Grow Rich, no one ever mentions the sex transmutation chapter.

I once tried reading Think and Grow Rich, but I stopped well before the “sex transmutation chapter.” And now that I think about it — I had blocked out this memory until just now — it was because of a REALLY NOT OKAY story about a “small colored child” using her powers of mind control to extract her mother’s pay from a white mill owner.

Outrageously, the lesson the book takes from this story is not, “Holy shit, racism is bad,” but “How can a rich white man use the example of this brave and tenacious little girl to make money selling life insurance?” It’s the 1937 version of every time it’s Martin Luther King Day and a white person quotes the “I have a dream” speech in a post about how King really motivates him to monetize his blog. NO. JUST NO.

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    • Lindsey Conklin

      Agreed! Especially cutting out the “soul-sucking dudes” hah that’s awesome

    • kj

      That is some controlling, selfish behavior cloaked in plausible deniability (“All I want to do is spend time with my girlfriend.”)

      I don’t think I appreciated this bit enough the first time I read it. It’s so true! Like in “The Devil Wears Prada,” when the boyfriend kept whining and whining when he was being neglected, while Anne Hathaway is living a badass Fashion Life… like, get real dude, it’s not going to last forever.