Emma Roberts And Evan Peters Get Engaged Despite Their Past Domestic Violence

Premiere Of FX's "American Horror Story: Coven" - After PartyEmma Roberts and Evan Peters are apparently engaged after a New York City proposal over the holidays. I’m actually surprised we didn’t see more celebrity engagements over the holidays, but who knows what will come out of the woodwork. While an engagement is happy news, I have yet to find a news outlet that’s reporting on the engagement without mentioning Roberts and Peters’ domestic violence incident from last summer, while glossing over the actual reality of domestic violence.

Perhaps the ever-sensitive Perez Hilton‘s characterization was the most telling: “We’re so glad they’ve moved past 2013′s bloody hotel beat down and on to happier days!” In case you don’t remember, Roberts was arrested in July of 2013 after police were called to Roberts and Peters’ hotel room, where Peters’ was found with a bloody nose and a bite mark. He didn’t press charges and and Roberts was released. As far as we know, that was the end of it. It was a pretty chilling reminder that pretty, likable, white, and affluent women can be abusers, and that men can be victims. Since it’s a private matter, we don’t know what happened next and what type of help the couple sought.

I don’t want to sit here and say that their engagement is a horrible, no good, awful thing, because I just don’t know. I don’t know that Roberts isn’t in some sort of treatment, and if perhaps they really were able to move past what I’m hoping was an isolated incidence of violence. But I also have a pretty strong opinion that violence is rarely an isolated incidence, and being abused one time is one time too many. I don’t see how you can come back from that.

Here’s my hypothetical–if I’m wrong and it is possible to come back from inciting violence, how is it done? What would Roberts have to do to actually put this behind her? What would Chris Brown or Sean Penn have to do? The answer here is a little obvious since both Penn and Roberts faced very little (if any) professional disadvantages while Chris Brown became the most hated man around for a period of years, but for a moment, get hypothetical with me and suspend the obvious free pass we give to white celebrities. How does a non-famous, normal person move forward in a relationship after inciting violence?

Maybe it’s a some mix of treatment, counseling, and self delusion. My impulse is to say “you don’t.” If your partner gets violent once, you leave (although of course I know that leaving isn’t always an option for a host of reasons, not the least of which is imminent danger). Engagements like Roberts and Peters’ show that possibly violent and abusive relationships can continue either through fear of leaving, or possibly through some other combination of unknown factors that I can’t comprehend that entail “moving on.” Violence isn’t always a deal breaker. But I still think it should be.

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    • Kaitlin Reilly

      It’s weird how quickly that incident blew over in the press. I don’t know if Emma Roberts has a history of violence outside of this incident but it would definitely make me rethink a future with her. Apparently their relationship is “passionate”, which is usually just code for “unstable”.
      Plus, Evan Peters is adorable and I kind of want him to be single forever.

      • Holly

        Ugh. “Passionate”. I hate that. Passion does not always have to mean unstable, crazy and precarious. I have a passion for helping the homeless. I do it without hitting them in the face or getting drunk and professing my love to them atop a moving bus and then throwing myself off of it. In all seriousness, I’m passionate about my husband. I feel we have passion in our relationship. We never hit each other or do all sorts of crazy things to prove our relationship is important and full of “love”. I wish people didn’t think this was an indicator of a big love.

        Also, yes. He is really adorable. And floppy.

    • Lindsey Conklin

      I think it should be a deal breaker, too

    • anna

      I’m kind of defensive, not because I’ve advocating domestic violence, but because it can be a one time thing.
      I am a loving, gentle, stable person by all standards and I hit my former fiancee twice. He was a bi polar schizophrenic and dealt with it by drinking. After dissapearing for a weekend he came home, drunk, slurring about cheating on me, and I just snapped. I hit him in the face. Am I proud of it? No. Should I have hit a man I loved deeply, who was dealing with severe mental issues not his fault? No. Should I hit ANYONE? No. But I snapped, and feel guilty about it to this day.
      Sometimes people snap, and hopefully this was the case. I hope the best for them, and that they have a loving, healthy relationship, but we can’t know unless we’re there.

      • Kaitlin Reilly

        I actually agree with this — I think it depends on what the context is though. If a friend hits another friend during an argument, is that the same thing as hitting someone you are in a romantic relationship with? I don’t really know if a one-time situation necessarily means that person will be violent again, but I also don’t think that violence is ever excusable. I don’t think there are any cut-and-dry answers, but I think that it’s a really fast move for this couple to make after they just had a presumably very serious fight that resulted in Emma Roberts making Evan Peters bleed.

      • Rina

        Everyone seems to be ignoring that she also had bruises on her legs. Maybe instead of arguing verbally they fist fight

      • anna

        You are right, it’s a very very tricky thing. I mean, I feel like I should get a pardon sometimes, but why? Because I’m a woman? Because he was a drunken asshole? I know if he ever laid a hand on me he’d never hear the end of it. Once you start getting into that, then anyone can justify anything.
        So, I generally try to view it as a huge mistake on my part, and know that he forgave and I learned and we moved on and are on very close terms.

        SO, I’m just hoping all is forgiving and well in the Peters-Roberts household

      • Julia Sonenshein

        I’m really glad you brought this up, because I absolutely do think there are instances of snapping (I’ve snapped). That’s why I don’t really know how to look at any of this––there’s just way too many details that we don’t know about. Thanks for bringing this up; it’s a really valuable point.

    • Keith R

      He is a pussy for getting beat up by her. It’s actually hilarious…..and pathetic at the same time.

      P.S. I can only imagine the simpleton-like responses to my above comment.

      • Mahdi Martin

        Here’s my simpleton-like response. If he didn’t hit her back, which I’m not sure of because I wasn’t there, that makes him a strong and temperate individual. He’s surely physically stronger than her, and he could have beat her senseless if he lost control of his temper. It takes a real man to subdue a woman that’s freaking out without hurting her. He-man!

      • retarded

        This is crap.
        If a smaller guy hits a bigger guy he should be prepared that he bit off too much.
        He’d be in his right to stop her violence anyway needed and doing so in a nonviolent way means nothing. It’s a tactic and that’s it. Because she’s a woman? Nigga please.

      • Holly

        Please explain the hilarious and pathetic (at the same time) parts to us simpletons.

      • Muggle

        And you’re an utter cunt. This is why men don’t seek help when they’re abused by female partners. Nobody wants to fight someone they love, even if that someone is beating the crap out of them. And especially if they know that the cops will arrest them just because they’re male and would think that in any domestic violence situation, he would automatically be the abuser.

    • buddy

      Don’t know why I feel that I know this, but I just do. She is a very spoiled, entitled young woman. He is a really nice guy, very talented actor, afraid to leave the relationship, and has a strong sense of morality. He was raised strict Roman Catholic. He is afraid to leave the relationship, and , because of his age and inexperience, he believes that he has to stay with her. If anyone who knows him reads this, please help him get out

    • buddy

      I saw a picture of Emma Roberts in People magazine, many years ago, she was about 8 yrs old. I thought to myself then, that she looks like a devil child. Now it turns out she’s an abuser. She really looks like she’s ugly on the inside as well as outside.

    • Jennifer

      Thank you!! Thought I was going crazy by not finding any articles about abuse. Just cause she a little white girl doesn’t mean she can’t be an abuser! Though I’m not saying she is since I don’t know what goes on behind closed doors but it makes me angry when I see something like this. If the roles were reverse they’d be calling him an abuser, and that she should leave, oh but a girl ‘well we don’t know what really happened plus she has minor bruises on her legs after the incident’ Really? I got bigger bruises on my legs and I don’t even remember getting them. To this day we don’t take a man being abused from a woman seriously! Small guy big woman sure, medium guy small woman..not really. Abuse is abuse no matter what spin you put on it. That girl is a grown ass woman, she should know better!