You Shouldn’t Be So Quick To Applaud OKCupid As Gay Crusaders For Calling Out Firefox

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OKCupid is taking a stand for gay rights this week by urging its members to boycott the Firefox internet browser. Seriously, though. Who in this world is still using Firefox?

If you log onto OKCupid while using Firefox, you’ll be greeted by a message that says, in part:

Hello there, Mozilla Firefox user. Pardon this interruption of your OkCupid experience.

Mozilla’s new CEO, Brendan Eich, is an opponent of equal rights for gay couples. We would therefore prefer that our users not use Mozilla software to access OkCupid.

If you want to keep using Firefox, the link at the bottom will take you through to the site. However, we urge you to consider different software for accessing OkCupid.

As it turns out, Mozilla’s new CEO, Brendan Eich, made a $1000 donation in 2008 to California’s Proposition 8, a gay marriage ban passed in 2008 (and, coming from a Californian, a great embarrassment to our state). Eich is an opponent of gay marriage, and OKCupid would “therefore prefer that [their] users not use Mozilla software to access OkCupid.”

Mozilla, for their part, issued a butt hurt statement of their own:

Mozilla supports equality for all, including marriage equality for LGBT couples. No matter who you are or who you love, everyone deserves the same rights and to be treated equally. OKcupid never reached out to us to let us know of their intentions, nor to confirm facts.

It doesn’t do much to exonerate them or make them look particularly great, and as far as I can see, the fact that Mozilla’s CEO made a contribution to anti-gay amendment is accurate; I haven’t seen that disputed anywhere.

On the other hand, I’m a bit reticent to hold OKCupid up as a paragon for queer rights of any kind–OKCupid isn’t particularly inclusive, despite the fact that they included the following overwrought statement in their call for boycott:

“OkCupid is for creating love. Those who seek to deny love and instead enforce misery, shame, and frustration are our enemies, and we wish them nothing but failure.”

Unfortunately, OKCupid isn’t really about creating love. It’s about creating love for some people. The site ignores anyone who doesn’t fit the gender binary by limiting gender choices to male or female, and also limits orientation to straight, gay, or bisexual. That’s hardly an accurate representation of the multitudes of orientations out there. For a company that claims to represent inclusivity for all types of relationships and people, it misses a good amount of them. While I want to applaud OKCupid for taking a stand at all, there’s some serious cognitive dissonance between their new activist persona and actual actions as a company. At best, it’s well intentioned but too little, and at worst, it comes off like “no it’s cool a lot of my friends are gay.”

It’s important for people to be aware of where their money is going, and so OKCupid has every right to call out Eich. Of course, Mozilla is hardly the only company in the world with a CEO making donations that would upset its customers–Whole Foods immediately comes to mind. And while it’s admirable for anyone to stand up and say anything when it’s easier to stand in the background, I’m going to withhold any gushing praise for OKCupid’s principled stand until they make a few changes to their own concept of inclusivity.

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    • Kaitlin Reilly

      Had no idea about the Mozilla thing. Hopefully OKCupid will follow sites like Facebook and include more gender/sexuality options in the future.

    • amy teill

      Ok Cupid has a way to go, but how do you expect them to make those changes without letting them start? They aren’t perfect but at least they are attempting to be inclusive, raise awareness, start a conversation and strive forward. You’ll never get a company to change to 100% OMGOSH SO PERFECT in one night, it starts with small steps and this is one.

    • Lindsey Conklin

      It is a start!

    • cc

      just a marketing ploy by a desperate site, nothing to see here

      • Misenhammer

        Yep. Until they make real changes to their own site, which they are 100% in control of doing, this is basically meaningless.

    • gruntledlark

      So, do they support boycotting Obama, b/c he was anti-gay marriage in 2008?

      • Norman Dostal

        he wasnt anti-gay, dumdum,. He had to wiat for the mindless religious sheep to “catch up” before he could reveal his true feelings., He has ALWAYS supported gays.

      • blh

        Lol is that how it works?? What a joke.

      • Ricky

        Did Obama – or anyone else who was anti gay marriage – support taking away the rights that had been granted by the courts – for gays and lesbians to marry. Did Obama run on a platform of taking away the rights of gays and lesbians to marry in the almost 10 states they could marry in in 2008 — did Obama say that he hoped – as many who supported Prop 8 hoped – that not only should the right be taken away – those marriages that had taken place should be nullified – did Obama ever say that – frankly – other than Santorum and those who supported Prop 8 – did anyone else even want that?
        Prop 8 was never about a political discussion on same sex marriage – it was always ugly, punitive, and vicious.

    • G

      Disappointed in the use of the tasteless phrase “butt hurt”.

    • Norman Dostal

      This is great. These bigots must be made to pay for their hatred. This CEO helped contribute to gays having to wait FIVE LONG YEARS for equality in CA. That is vile and ugly and will be reckoned