Growing up in a small town with little access to what I now consider the â€śreal world,â€ť my only expectations for what college would be like came from what I saw on TV and in the movies. Going into sorority recruitment weekend my freshman year of college, I had all sorts of expectations that ran the gamut from being forced to drink too much to not being tall enough to be able to pledge (hello, fellow 5’2″-ers!). I had nightmares about hazing and daydreams about formals. I had preconceived notions and biases formed under the influence of Elle Woods. After rushing it didnâ€™t take long to realize how some expectations of being a sorority girl couldnâ€™t be more wrong while others couldnâ€™t be truer.
1. The Women
Expectation:Â AÂ bunch of mean, terrifying girls force you to drink, dance, sing and pick them up from parties at 2 a.m.
Reality:Â You’re never forced to do anything worse than compliment your big sister’s crafting efforts. (The forced singing and dancing toÂ One DirectionÂ comesÂ afterÂ initiation–and let’s be honest, it’s not that forced.)
Expectation: You’ll be showered in all sorts of unpleasant substances.
Reality: You’re showered in gifts.
Expectation: You’re paying to have friends.
Reality: You’re paying for your friendâ€™s 2 a.m. Taco Bell order.
Expectation: You are required to dress to the nines whenever you’re out in public.
Reality: You canâ€™t remember the last time you didnâ€™t wear yoga pants to class.
5. Mo’ Money
Expectation: You’reÂ extremely wealthy. Daddyâ€™s credit card pays for everything.
Reality:Â You’re shop at the dollar store more than anywhere else (with the expectation of Trader Joes, where you stock up on Two Buck Chuck and guacamole).
Expectation:Â You’re so good at making kitschy crafts,Â Martha StewartÂ and Zooey DeschanelÂ call your ass up for help.
Reality: You have more glitter in your hair than on the heart-shaped frame you’re painting. Somebody just complimented you on your “sparkly earwig sculpture.”
7. Sexy Parties
Expectation: You party with super hot fraternity dudes every night, red cups filled with PBR held above all your heads.
Reality: You learn YouTube dances with your sisters while eating pizza Monday through Friday in your sweatpants (on Wednesdays, you wear pink).
Expectation: Schoolwork is secondary to all things Greek.
Reality: You and a few of your sisters have basically commissioned an entire section in the library thanks to the amount of time you spend there.
Expectation: You are required to be on a strict diet to keep up your ~*rockin’ college girlÂ bod*~.
Reality: The 4 major food groups in your diet: pizza, pizza, pizza and whatever free food is being given out on campus (if itâ€™s free you will find it).
(If it’s pizza, you will definitely find it.)
10. Greek Week
Expectation: Greek competitions are terrifying battles between sororities on campus.
Reality:Â Greek Week is war! Take no prisoners! Show now mercy! You were born for this and/or have been practicing for 3 months straight! (So yeah, this one’s sort of accurate.)
Expectations: You spend all your free time getting all dressed up with your sisters for formals.
Reality: The bus leaves in a half hour and you still donâ€™t have a dress or shoes and youâ€™re already a little tipsy. You may or may not have just used lipstick for blush…andÂ lip liner as eyeliner.
Expectations: Formals are basically prom, i.e. the most magical nights of the year full of dancing and romance.
Reality: You dance for approximately 2.5 seconds before your feet hurt too much to move and your date is too drunk to stand.
13.Â And sometimes your expectations are met…
Expectation: You have the best four years ever with some of the best women ever!
Reality: You actually have the best four years ever with some of the best women ever!
14. And sometimes they are exceeded:
Expectation: You are in the wedding of a sister or two.
Reality: You are in the wedding party of all five of your closest sisters and are the godmother to your big sisterâ€™s first child. Yes, this is a shout out, and yes, I’m so excited.