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Coco Rocha’s Truthbombs About Body Image Will Inspire You To Be Kinder To Other Ladies

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You can always count on spunky Coco Rocha to drop some major truthbombs into every interview she gives. The gorgeous model recently chatted with Glamour about everything from beauty products to Instagram to body shaming, and this quote about the latter stands out to me:

I think in general it has always mainly been women who make themselves and other women feel bad about their bodies. We are our own worst critics and enemies. Personally, every day I see some ignorant comment from some woman out there telling me to ‘eat a hamburger’ or something to that effect. Thin-shaming has become as prevalent as fat-shaming. Why do we need to criticize other women’s bodies? It baffles me and is really sad. Unfortunately, it’s also not something I imagine will end soon.

I definitely don’t disagree with her– our culture so expects women to be in constant competition against each other that it’s almost inevitable that we’ll put each other down– but it makes me really sad when that competition is portrayed as being our own faults. Women aren’t inherently cruel, and we don’t pop out of the womb wanting to tear each other down. We spend our entire lives being fed the message that pleasing men is the ultimate goal, and our desire to beat out other women for the attention of dudes is an unfortunate consequence. That doesn’t negate the fact that women’s comments about each other’s bodies can cause real harm, and I don’t mean to say that we ‘can’t stop ourselves’ from passing judgment on other ladies, but it’s still depressing that women are always blamed for fighting in a war we didn’t sign up for.

Still, Coco’s words serve as a great reminder that we should all strive to improve the way we talk about bodies. Telling someone to lose weight is bullshit. Telling someone to ‘eat a hamburger’ is bullshit. Our entire culture is constantly working to make us feel horrible about ourselves, and we don’t need to speed up that process by making judgmental comments about each other. It’s reasonable that Coco doesn’t think this girl-on-girl war will end any time soon, but I have faith in our collective ability to rise above it.

Via Glamour / Photo: Getty Images

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  • Kaitlin Reilly

    Not sure if thin shaming is equally as prevalent as fat shaming, but regardless both are terrible and do nothing but tell women that they don’t fit into this “perfect” body mold. Body snarking is never okay.

    • Andrea Frailey

      I completely agree. Thin-shaming is terrible, but it isn’t as bad as fat-shaming because even if someone says to you “go eat a hamburger” society is still telling you that you are beautiful. You can still go to a store and buy clothes off the rack that fit you. Whereas if someone tells you “wow you really need to lose weight”, you also have to deal with society saying you are ugly, and not being able to find clothing that is designed for your body type.

    • Kaitlin Reilly

      Very true! That doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt, of course.

    • Andrea Frailey

      Of course! No one should be commenting on anyone else’s body in general. It’s not their business.

    • Charmless

      That’s not necessarily true. The phrase “real women have curves” specifically tells me that I am not a “real” woman. The primary method of reassuring larger women that they are beautiful is to tell them that thin women are gross. I have the added benefit of being really short, so can find clothing that fits me at Gap Kids more easily than I can at Banana Republic. Delia*s? No problem. J. Crew? I’m a 00p and I still have to have those pieces tailored. As the average person gets larger, the plus size market expands (albeit still WAY too slowly, for sure), the median size gets larger, and the smaller sizes start disappearing. I’m now a 00 in shops where I was a 2 in the ’90s. The pants I inherited from my mom’s ’80s wardrobe are a size 6. I haven’t lost weight. Sizing is changing because “average” is changing, and I’m too far below average to be considered. Please don’t think it’s easier to find clothing because I’m thin.

    • Kaitlin Reilly

      I am totally behind you on the “real woman have curves” thing being harmful — I’m not very thin, but I’m certainly not curvy, and I find that statement shaming women who don’t have Marilyn Monroe-esque curves.

      Basically, let’s all just stop snarking on everyone’s body type, right? :)

  • Lindsey Conklin

    I think it’s a lose lose. If you’re fit and thin, you’re too thin, need to eat, have an eating disorder. If you’re heavier, or chubby you over eat, you’re lazy, you’re fat. we need to accept that people come in different shapes and sizes and recognize how beautiful such variations are!