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Harlotry: Yes, Sex Workers Do Actually Kiss Our Clients

Harlotry: Yes, Sex Workers Do Actually Kiss Our Clients

Pretty Woman (1990)

Cate is something of a renaissance sex worker and has held numerous interesting jobs in the adult industry. Each week, she shares her stories in Harlotry.

A lot of people think sex workers are there just for men to get off with, to, and on. That couldn’t be further from the case. I’ve written before about how most of my clients are seeking not only sex, but especially intimacy from sex workers. They come to me and my ho sisters and brothers not necessarily just because they want to get off, but because they want a human connection. This is why kissing is so widely sought-after.

Due to films like Pretty Woman, it’s a common misconception that whores don’t kiss, and while I’m sure there are still sex workers who refuse to kiss their clients, they are no longer the majority. It’s very uncommon for full service sex workers (those of us who have sex with our clients) to not offer at least some kissing. The girlfriend experience has become standard for indoor full service sex workers, and while that means different things in different cities, it always means kissing.

For me, and I think for most people, a kiss is usually a thousand times more intimate than any sex could ever be. On a purely biological level there is the simple fact that the mouth is the dirtiest part of the human body. When you kiss someone you are swapping your most disgusting germs with them. It may sound gross, but it’s the reality. Then there is the closeness involved; your faces, the things by which we recognize each other, are touching and melding. It’s impossible to equate that kind of closeness to that which we achieve through sex.

In my personal life I don’t kiss much. Maybe this has to do with my fear of intimacy and commitment, but I’m not sure if that’s really the case.

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  • CommuiK8

    So glad Cate is back! A great column this week!

  • KathleenKennettiel

    until I saw the paycheck which said $8694 , I didn’t
    believe that my sister was like trully erning money part time on there
    computar. . there friends cousin had bean doing this for only thirteen months
    and resantly repayed the dept on their home and bought themselves a Infiniti .
    check out the post right here F­i­s­c­a­l­p­o­s­t­.­C­O­M­

  • Anne Marie Hawkins

    Interesting freudian typo there with the first “bot” you kissed.

  • http://www.sydneyescortsoutcalls.com.au Emily Brown

    I think kiss is the most significant part of human sex, but not frequently when you sex with an escort. It is true that at the time of kiss most disgusting germs swapping both of your mug. Hence it is harmful for human health.

  • guest

    Glad you’re back! I do have a question, though. Maybe it’s me, or maybe not, but are you angry with yourself about something? I’m sure writers believe in semantics, and maybe you fall in that camp, but why are you calling yourself a whore so much in this article? I just can’t remember another one where you used that word so often to describe yourself, as if that is ALL you are. I know that cannot be true.

  • Safety First

    This whole girlfriend experience thing which usually includes a escort french kissing a client and performing a unprotected blowjob without a condom is a result of the internet giving clients to much power and control in calling shots. Clients have used the review boards to coerce and badger online escorts into doing bareback blowjobs and in some cases bareback full service and even swallowing semen. These escorts do this with multiple clients and they almost never require a client to take a HIV and STD test. Clients on review boards and the escorts who are coerced into this behavior have really hurt the business. They are still escorts with the old school game who will never do this. Some will secretly sneak a condom on a client’s penis if need be, they will promise him girlfriend experience and deny him when he doesn’t have STD test papers then promise him next time he will get girlfriend experience but come up with another excuse the second time they meet lol. They don’t care about reviews because they will travel from city to city and town to town and claim to be brand new to the business. Clients who are OK with strictly safe services and aren’t assholes who stay posting on review boards make the best regulars for the safe escorts and those are the ones who will get great service. The clients who badger, coerce and push naive women who know little about the business into doing unprotected and unsafe services don’t deserve anything but a safe service and if they insist on something unsafe then they deserve nothing but an empty wallet and blue balls. Legal brothels in Nevada don’t permit any service without a condom INCLUDING blowjobs. I think all professional escorts should adopt these safety standards and may-be the black eye this business has suffered because of all this kissing and bareback crap will finally heal up. The problem with the internet is any moron can post an escort ad and the only education they will get is reading bullshit on review boards from clients and mostly escorts performing unsafe and unprotected sex acts. They will use every scam in the book to get a new girl to swap bodily fluids, drink cum and other unneccessary stuff that real pros won’t do. Also I blame a lot of agency and incall owners who will only hire girls willing to do unsafe services because they only care about their clients coming back and not the girls working for their agency. Hopefully the women will wake up and take control of the business back from the clients until then it will continue to be more of this madness.