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Harlotry: Yes, Sex Workers Do Actually Kiss Our Clients

Harlotry: Yes, Sex Workers Do Actually Kiss Our Clients

Pretty Woman (1990)

Cate is something of a renaissance sex worker and has held numerous interesting jobs in the adult industry. Each week, she shares her stories in Harlotry.

A lot of people think sex workers are there just for men to get off with, to, and on. That couldn’t be further from the case. I’ve written before about how most of my clients are seeking not only sex, but especially intimacy from sex workers. They come to me and my ho sisters and brothers not necessarily just because they want to get off, but because they want a human connection. This is why kissing is so widely sought-after.

Due to films like Pretty Woman, it’s a common misconception that whores don’t kiss, and while I’m sure there are still sex workers who refuse to kiss their clients, they are no longer the majority. It’s very uncommon for full service sex workers (those of us who have sex with our clients) to not offer at least some kissing. The girlfriend experience has become standard for indoor full service sex workers, and while that means different things in different cities, it always means kissing.

For me, and I think for most people, a kiss is usually a thousand times more intimate than any sex could ever be. On a purely biological level there is the simple fact that the mouth is the dirtiest part of the human body. When you kiss someone you are swapping your most disgusting germs with them. It may sound gross, but it’s the reality. Then there is the closeness involved; your faces, the things by which we recognize each other, are touching and melding. It’s impossible to equate that kind of closeness to that which we achieve through sex.

In my personal life I don’t kiss much. Maybe this has to do with my fear of intimacy and commitment, but I’m not sure if that’s really the case.

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  • CommuiK8

    So glad Cate is back! A great column this week!

  • KathleenKennettiel

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  • Anne Marie Hawkins

    Interesting freudian typo there with the first “bot” you kissed.

  • http://www.sydneyescortsoutcalls.com.au Emily Brown

    I think kiss is the most significant part of human sex, but not frequently when you sex with an escort. It is true that at the time of kiss most disgusting germs swapping both of your mug. Hence it is harmful for human health.

  • guest

    Glad you’re back! I do have a question, though. Maybe it’s me, or maybe not, but are you angry with yourself about something? I’m sure writers believe in semantics, and maybe you fall in that camp, but why are you calling yourself a whore so much in this article? I just can’t remember another one where you used that word so often to describe yourself, as if that is ALL you are. I know that cannot be true.