• Tue, Jul 15 - 1:00 pm ET

20 Annoying Things Only Fat Girls Understand

Hi, everyone. I’m a fat girl. Now before you get all unsettled because I used the word “fat” and not “plus size,” let me first tell you that I am fat and I don’t consider it a bad word. It’s an adjective, like “tall” or “brunette.” It’s used to describe my body and on my own terms. It’s only when people give negative connotations to the word ‘fat’ that it becomes an insult. Unfortunately, many people find my fatness offensive, so calling me fat is used as a tool to hurt my feelings. Well, it actually doesn’t anymore, but thanks for trying, lovely people on the street! I’ve moved beyond caring about the label I give myself and others angrily give me, but a few things I haven’t moved beyond yet. Some things just really suck for fat people.

Shopping is a nightmare, even though stores are slowly catching on the fact that fat girls like to wear bikinis and aren’t afraid of rocking a crop top. Everyone has a comment on your body and feels the need to tell you, and regular social situations become anxiety ridden nightmares because of how people react to your larger body. It sucks, I’m pissed about it, and I’m here to complain. C’mon fat girls. Sit down, relax, and read with me all the annoying things we have to endure as the big ladies that we are.

1. When people tell you, “You’re not fat, you’re beautiful.”

Oh my God, just stop yourself. That’s the biggest backhanded compliment I’ve ever heard. Beautiful and fat are not mutually exclusive.

2. Chub Rub is the enemy.

It’s been a long day of dress wearing, you finally get home and lay in bed, and your thighs are ON FIRE. I struggled with this for a long time before I discovered Monistat Soothing Care Chafing Relief Powder Gel. It’s a miracle product.

3. Squeezing by people gives you anxiety.

You must squish your butt against everything in your path. Every person between you and where you’re going gets a face full of butt. This is why I like aisle seats.

4. Public transportation is the worst.

That little subway seat outline is meant for one ass only, and you’re gonna sit on it even if your one ass is bigger than theirs. People on either side of you will either adjust or curse your fatness under their breath.

5. When you say you don’t like being cat called, people say you should be flattered.

Just because one person thinks an unwanted whisper of “SO SEXY” right into your ear as you walk by a man is a compliment doesn’t mean we think so too. It’s not like it’s the only one I’ve ever gotten in the history of my sad, fat life, so stop saying this.

6. When you sit down on the roller coaster, you hope that the seatbelt will close. 

You also hope it’s click-click-clicked down far enough so you don’t fall off and die.

7. Your clothes cost more than “straight sizes.”

That is of course unless you thrift everything or settle for cheap clothes with ugly patterns (I’m looking at you, cherries and skulls).

8. Not liking the term “plus size.”

And also potentially not liking the term “fat,” “chubby,” “voluptuous,” “big boned,” or any of the other words to describe your body.

9. All sizes fit you differently. 

You fit into a L – 3X depending on the store and the clothing item, so you need to try literally everything on…

10. …which is difficult when all the cute clothes you want are online.

It’s such a hassle. I just want to walk into a store, try stuff on, buy it and leave. But noooooo, I need to track my purchases and send half of it back!

11. You get judged if you’re eating too much and judged if you’re eating too little.

The fat girl is either stuffing herself or watching her weight. She just cannot win.

12. Everyone feels entitled to their opinion on your body and doesn’t mind sharing it with you.

Yes, Aunt Whomever, I do fill out these pants nicely, don’t I?

13. Going shopping with smaller friends and only trying on jewelry and shoes.

I have so many unwanted cheap earrings. SO MANY.

14. Plus size models only seem to have one body type.

No big round bellies, no butts, no thunder thighs. Give me arm flap or give me death.

15. The crotch of your pants wears out too quickly.

I’ve killed many a pair of jeans this way. May their souls rest in pieces.

16. Doctors are always disappointed that you’re overweight, even if you’re just there about your sinus infection.

I tried to switch from a medication that gave me intense and debilitating headaches to one that *might* make me gain some weight and the doctor basically told me that headaches were a small price to pay to stay thinner. I almost slapped him.

17. Plus size models don’t actually seem plus sized to you. 

Oh, you’re a size 10? Please, tell me more about how trying to find clothes is hard for you.

18. People think you’re not in a relationship because you’re too fat for one.

OR MAYBE I JUST DON’T WANT TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP RIGHT NOW.

19. Fear of one day getting kicked off an airplane.

I don’t even want to think about this one.

20. People think it’s either inspiring or pathetic when you exercise.

But really, you just felt like taking a damn walk that day.

 

You can reach this post’s author, Alana Milich, on twitter.

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  • Samantha Escobar

    #1 is such a shitty shitty shitty thing to say to somebody, and it’s always from people who have zero idea how shitty it is.

  • Ashley Reese

    This article rules. The bit about people feeling entitled to pass judgement on your body and make commentary is so spot on. All of a sudden everyone turns into a nutrition expert; ridiculous!

  • Alexis Rhiannon

    Get it girl.

  • Lily Savage

    I’ll never understand cat calls. It’s never a compliment, no matter who you are.

    • MissJoy

      Right? Unless you are mute, you have no excuse, lol.

    • anadmckinney

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      Jacqueline implied I’m taken by surprise that a mom can earn $8130 in 1 month
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    • gladyswray

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    • Joanne

      The other thing is that it’s entirely unrelated to physical appearance. I could leave my house in sweatpants 10 pounds heavier or 20 pounds lighter than I am now. I never wear makeup out anymore. I still get catcalled because there are a lot of piggish men in my city. I just can’t win. STFU, boys.

  • Emg

    Oh my gosh, anti-chafing gel?!?!?! You have saved my summer (provided it works as well as it sounds like it will) <3

    • Alana Vincenza

      It always works for me! On days with a lot of walking, you might have to reapply, but it’s a small price to pay for no chub rub.

    • osteopathosaurus

      Ooooh y’all. I use Gold Bond Friction Defense. It comes in a tube like deodorant and you just swipe wherever you rub and fuhgettaboutit. It works, lasts, and is not pricey. It’s also easy to reapply especially if you’re out and about. Just don’t tell your S.O. if you like it or you’ll end up with 5 tubes because somebody doesn’t see why you don’t feel like this is a shareable hygiene item.

    • la vega

      There’s a line of products at Walmart called Monkey Butt that does the same!

  • Barbara Toledo

    I relate to all of this. Especially the catcalling. I’ve had a few people tell me I should be flattered. Excuse me if a random guy on the bus pushing himself on me and saying he “would so fuck a fat girl” makes me uncomfortable.

  • charlotte

    in regards to the chub rub, i’ve taken to wearing bike shorts under skirts and dresses. it works really well and as a plus if its windy out nobody gets a peak at my underwear

  • NYCNanny

    Or how people assume you’re “unhealthy” because you aren’t a size 6. Um no. I wear a 14-16 and have lower blood pressure/cholesterol, have more endurance, am stronger, and eat way healthier (veg*n) than all my skinny friends.

    • TheDarkArtist

      Every fat person says this, but they all die sooner and unhealthier than thin people. In any case, eating vegan or vegetarian isn’t automatically “healthier.” Olive oil is vegan, but it’s not especially “healthy,” despite what the media might say. Calories in – calories out. If you count them honestly, you lose weight. If not, you use fatlogic and start making up medical disorders to cover up your shame. “I’m fat as shit, but *it’s not my fault!* Thyroid! Or something.”

      Whatever helps you sleep at night. But, when fatties go on social media and say shit like “I run 5k a day and I can bench 350lbs, but I just *can’t lose weight*,” those of us who actually put in time and effort tracking calories and exercising are just laughing at you. Not because you’re fat, many of us were before we lost weight. I sure was. No, we’re making fun of you because you’re living in a delusional fantasy world where thermodynamics doesn’t exist and DNA makes people fat.

      It’s a ridiculous joke. You’re fat because you eat more calories than you burn. You can burn more or eat less, but don’t pretend that you’re putting in work when you’re not. An average woman might work for a size 6 body. You didn’t work for your fat body. You ate for it. Your “healthy” calories are just as much calories as a chocolate bar or some Taco Bell.

    • NYCNanny

      Actually. Weight loss is about way more than calories in and calories out. It’s about your entire body. There’s a million other reasons people can weight more than 140 lbs that have absolutely nothing to do with how many calories they eat. And yeah, thyroid is. A huge issue, and not just for the few people who fall into the hypo or hyper thyroids.
      I won’t get into it, but your response is sad, mean, and just plain negative.

      Oh and ps: I DO work for my body. Thanks. If I didn’t eat super healthy and work out daily, I’d be a size 18 or 20. Now I’m a 14 and pretty happy with that.

    • Arglist

      Do you even lift?
      Seriously, stop spreading this bullshit. It is a well known fact, that there are three basic body types each having advantages and disadvantages when it comes to gaining / losing weight and increasing the FFM. “Endomorphic: characterized by increased fat storage, wide hips, medium
      width shoulders and a medium bone structure. Endomorphs are predisposed
      to store fat due to having well developed visceral structure”

    • S

      Actually, that study was debunked due to methodological issues iIRC.

    • Arglist

      What study Oo
      Thats a well known fact. Just look at the people walking arround. Ask muscular people if they go to the gym or do weight traning. Some will say they don’t. Look at fat people. Ignore their body, some will look thin, some will look fat. It’s also a well known fact is that it’s harder to gain muscular mass for women.

    • S

      http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Somatotype_and_constitutional_psychology#Modern_assessments Uhhhh, no, it’s not a well known fact.

      There’s no way to build muscle other than working your muscles (i.e. when your muscles expend more effort than they’re used to, they tear; the rebuilding and healing process is what makes them larger and stronger over time). Some people are muscular because they do weight training, some people are muscular because their jobs are very physical, like construction workers etc. But no one is just magically muscular.

      “Look at fat people. Ignore their body, some will look thin, some will look fat.” Huh? No, fat people are fat because they take in more calories than they expend, and the excess is stored as fat. Some people naturally burn more calories throughout the course of a day than others because they have higher metabolisms, yes, but that doesn’t change the way the process works. There’s no magic here, no mystery.

    • Arglist

      That’s exactly what I said, no magic, no mystery. All I said is that there are body types and some can gain weight easier than others. What I said about fat people was just an example of how you can see what body type someone belongs to.

    • Alana Vincenza

      “those of us who actually put in time and effort tracking calories and exercising are just laughing at you.”

      …but I thought you said the persecution of fat people I was writing about was only a ~delusion~

    • cremefresh2death

      You seem to be equating fat with weight and oversimplifying how bodies work. Have you seen any photos of professional weight lifting women? A lot of them are fat (meant only as a neutral descriptor, not an insult), can run 5k/benchpress your crotchety self, are fit and healthy, and have a lot of muscle (which is more dense than fat). People may judge someone who has a big tummy or large thighs, but the point is YOU HAVE NO WAY OF KNOWING why their body looks that way. And you have no right to judge anyone just because the “right” way to lose weight worked for you.

    • la vega

      Some people are active just to be active, not necessarily to lose weight. And some of those people are…*gasp* fat AND happy!

    • NYCNanny

      Thank you! Pretty much every time I sign up for a new exercise class, someone (either teacher or fellow student) asks me “oh are you doing this to lose weight?”
      Well yeah, that would be nice to loose a few lbs, but that’s not why I signed up. Maybe I just like soul cycle cause it makes me feel good and it’s fun. Or Zumba or Pilates or any of the classes I take on a daily basis. It’s not solely about wright loss, people.

    • S

      Fucking seriously. Thank you. Being fat IS unhealthy. I really and truly do sympathize with the points the writer wrote (except cat calling – sorry, you don’t get to claim that one as some “only fat girls will understand,” it’s an issue ALL women deal with and saying otherwise is honestly offensive). Being fat sucks, I get that. I don’t have a problem with fat/overweight/plus size women talking about their issues with being fat in daily life and commiserating. But saying it’s not inherently unhealthy to be fat is irresponsible and frankly, morally reprehensible. Children could be reading this! Would you tell children it’s not unhealthy to smoke cigarettes? To avoid sunscreen and go to (non-spray on) tanning salons on a regular basis?

    • yourmoms

      Vegan =/= healthy. Just so you know.

    • NYCNanny

      Obviously some vegan things are unhealthy. But I eat insanely healthy. So yeah.

    • RedVelvetCupcake

      Can you define “insanely healthy” for me, or give some examples. This is not snark, I’m curious about how you eat.

    • NYCNanny

      Yeah. A typical day will be oatmeal with fruit for breakfast (and a black coffee), a salad with temphe or beans for lunch, and a whole grain pasta with sautéed veggies (mostly veggies and beans, a handful of pasta.)
      Obviously there are days I eat more or less protein. More or less carbs. More or less fat. But on a typical day, I eat around 1400 calories and many many colors on my plates. I also do soul cycle, Pilates, and go to the gym (light weight training, jogging for 20-40 mins) a few times a week. My job (a full time nanny) is also not sedative.

      Yes, I know I can push myself harder at the gym or eat less evoo or throw up after every meal (sarcasm), but I like my body (big boobs, smaller waist,
      Big hips…very hourglass-y like nigella Lawson…tummy fairly flat, etc.)
      I’m sure when my life changes, I’ll lose weight. Or gain weight
      But I’m not overly stressing about it. I find me sexy, I have no problem finding men (whatsoeverrrrrr) and it’s all good. :)

  • TheDarkArtist

    Alternative title for this article: “20 Delusions of Persecution That Only Fat Women Understand.” (Seriously, “girls?” I get so sick of seeing fake ass feminists “fat activists” calling themselves “girls.” If you have tits and pubic hair, you’re a woman, for christ sake.)

    • Alana Vincenza

      I prefer vaginally inclined, but that’s just me.

    • la vega

      I’m a 31 yr old 12 yr old.

  • maddy

    how come not a single fat person in your gifs – unless you count the cat?

    • Alana Vincenza

      How silly of me to think people would care more about the words I used and not the gifs I picked.

  • yourmoms

    Too bad nonfat girls have the same problems. What an entitled crybaby article.

    • Alana Vincenza

      How did you know I was crying when I wrote this? Gosh, this is so embarrassing.

  • The Internet

    I like how the author uses gifs of skinny, attractive people in order to add credence to what she said, since using pictures of people that look more like her would just make the whole article look kind of… ridiculous. Which it is.

    • Alana Vincenza

      Well, if “The Internet” says so, it must be true.

  • Celia

    Larger clothes should cost more. They use more fabric, thread, buttons etc. It only makes sense. Since the material used to make one 2x can probably make 2 or 3 xsmalls its logical to pay more.

    • la vega

      But these clothes cost .15 cents to be made. The markup shouldn’t be that high.

    • Celia

      But the skinnier girls don’t get any clothing breaks either. All clothes have ridiculous mark-ups, but if they use more material I don’t think there should be any complaints about prices. Unless its twice the price of a small dress, because it uses twice the fabric, you’re still getting a ‘deal’ in comparison to skinny girls.

    • NYCNanny

      With your logic, each size should cost different. If a size 0 shirt is $17, a size 2 should be $18, a size 4 should be $19, etc…not just a jump between size 12 and 14 (or whenever the price usually changes.)

  • JimbobElroy

    there’s fat. then there’s fat and ugly. then there’s fat ugly and bitchy. And finally fat ugly bitchy and entitled. for the latter two I have no time, and you do not deserve a date. For the first two, if you are kind, open fun, game and uninhibited then you will have a fun, happy life and you will have and keep good men in your life (assuming you like men).