Author Archives: Mommyish

An Unplanned Pregnancy Doesn’t Have To Ruin Your Life

An Unplanned Pregnancy Doesn't Have To Ruin Your Life

Growing up in my childhood home I heard a common refrain: don’t get pregnant when you’re young because it will ruin your life. My mom had me at 23 and though she never expressed resentment towards me, I knew she gave up a lot to raise me. I knew her life didn’t look the way she wanted it to look, and I was determined to follow her advice and not make those same mistakes. More »

Celebrating Your Anniversary With Small Kids: Expectations Vs. Reality

Celebrating Your Anniversary With Small Kids: Expectations Vs. Reality

I don’t have high expectations for my wedding anniversaries. I’ve never been the type to demand expensive gifts or elaborate displays of affection. Still, I always assumed anniversaries would be meaningful occasions where both my husband and I would go out of our way to make the day a bit more special. What I didn’t anticipate was how difficult it would be to get five seconds to ourselves once we had babies running around. More »

Shaming Women For Breastfeeding ‘Discreetly’ Is Just As Bad As Telling Them To Cover Up

Shaming Women For Breastfeeding âDiscreetlyâ Is Just As Bad As Telling Them To Cover Up

Public breastfeeding shouldn’t be controversial, but unfortunately we live in a society where it is. Countless times we’ve seen women shamed, asked to cover up, and even asked to leave places for the simple act of breastfeeding an infant. That sort of shaming is hurtful and ignorant. Equally damaging, though, are members of the breastfeeding community who shame ultra-modest women for their feelings about their own breasts and bodies. More »

I’m Giving Up Feminists For Lent

I'm Giving Up Feminists For Lent

In the 90s, I was a feminist dabbler. Much like I watched The Craft and “dabbled” in witchcraft because Fairuza Balk looked wicked. I didn’t “call the corners,” but the message was received: I liked loud, smart, messy women who stood for things. My feminist heroine was actually on heroin and my teachers were concerned enough about myCourtney Love obsession to call my mother — a lost cause if there ever was one. More »

Gross Things All Parents Do But Won’t Admit

Gross Things All Parents Do But Won't Admit

There’s no question that babies can do gross things, yes, even the girl ones. But despite the fact that parents are practically the reason Purell stays in business, we too are guilty of doing things that would make the childfree blush, including those who regularly undertake the trek to Burning Man. While parents love to overshare on Facebook, there are some things not even the boldest among us will confess to on our timelines. Here’s ten gross things all parents do, but will never admit. More »

There’s Nothing In The Mom Contract That Requires You To Wear A Swimsuit

Thereâs Nothing In The Mom Contract That Requires You To Wear A Swimsuit

I have seen a great many blog posts over the years about moms feeling bad that they do not want to be seen in a swimsuit in public. They guilt themselves because they want their kids to have memories of swimming with mommy. It usually ends with some warm and fuzzy anecdote about ditching the cover-up and braving the beach, tummy rolls and all, so that the kid is happy and the mom guilt can vanish. I don’t find this inspiring and I can honestly say that I don’t get it. More »

What Your Diaper Bag Says About You

What Your Diaper Bag Says About You

Babies love to pull on anything they can grab, so for many new moms accessories like necklaces, earrings and even long hair get sacrificed in the name of comfort and child safety. But self expression isn’t totally lost once you become a mom. The ever present diaper bag is a way to express your personal style and send a message to everyone you meet. Here’s what your diaper bag style says about you. More »

Should You Shave Your Legs Today: A Flowchart

Should You Shave Your Legs Today: A Flowchart

Homework, cleaning the house, making dinner, squeezing in a workout, getting to the office, catching up on The Bachelor–we get it, you’re busy. With so much going on, it’s natural to look for ways to save time by cutting out the non-essentials. Like the messy time suck that is shaving your legs. So do you really have to bother? Use our handy flowchart to figure out when to shave your legs. More »

Why I Stopped Saying ‘Someday’ When It Came To Having Kids

Why I Stopped Saying 'Someday' When It Came To Having Kids

I didn’t plan to be an old mom. I got married at twenty-three and wasn’t even sure I wanted kids. That ambivalence toward motherhood stretched through the first several years of my marriage. I didn’t think parenting was for me—I’d never babysat as a teenager or changed a diaper in my life. My husband Jay is in the Navy and his back-to-back deployments meant having a child wasn’t just on the back burner—it was on a burner in someone else’s kitchen. “Someday when we have kids” was a phrase we used often, but it never seemed real. A resolution for a distant new year, maybe. More »