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Harlotry: My Fetish House Got Raided And I Was Arrested (Part II)

Once we were in the car, the two cops driving continued to ask us questions, despite the fact that they hadn’t yet read us our Miranda rights. More »

Harlotry: My Fetish House Was Raided And I Got Arrested

During my almost five-year career as a sex worker, I have experienced work-related fear exactly twice. The first time was at the very beginning of my adventures in the sex industry, when Grant, the gentleman I got my revenge on last week, outed me to my mother.

The second time was two weeks ago when I got arrested. More »

Harlotry: How I Got Revenge On The Client Who Outed Me As A Sex Worker (To My Mom)

Longtime readers will remember “Grant,” the client who outed me to my mother at the very start of my career. Grant was a creep, plain and simple, and his borderline stalker behavior was one of the two most terrifying moments of my career.

What I didn’t know at the time is that Grant is what’s known in the industry as a hobbyist. More »

Harlotry: I Sought Sex Work As Group Therapy After My Rape

I’ve been a sex worker in a community structure three times, all of which have been different, and I prefer working in a group to working independently for a number of reasons. The main reasons is, of course, that by working in an environment with other women who not only know exactly what you do, but do it themselves, you have a built-in support network. More »

Harlotry: Rape Is No Different For A Sex Worker, Recovery Is Victory For All

I believe a lot of what helped me deal with not only the rape itself, but also the abuse, was my background in sex work. More »

Harlotry: No Means No, Even If You’ve Said Yes Before

I remembered there was a four-letter word for fucking people without their consent and I wondered if that was what had just happened to me. Was I suddenly a statistic, that one in four or one in three or whatever the number is of women who have been in some way sexually abused or assaulted? More »

Harlotry: When The Emotional Abuse Became Physical

In retrospect I ought to have noticed that something was amiss just off the fact that we had only been together for about seven months–Stanley had already made me cry more times than all of my exes combined. However, as I’ve said before, my brain was missing. “If it doesn’t hurt,” I told myself, “it isn’t really love.” More »

Harlotry: How My Abusive Relationship Began

Extricating oneself from an abusive relationship is never easy. More »

Harlotry: Why I Keep Returning To The Sex Industry

A lot of people have asked me why, if I love my career so much, I keep leaving it and then returning. The assumption is that if I love sex work so much, I’d never need a break, but that’s simply not true. More »

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Harlotry: Why I’m Returning To The Sex Industry

Cathryn Berarovich is something of a renaissance sex worker; she was until recently employed as a stripper but has held numerous interesting jobs in the industry (and she’s currently an excellent columnist on this very website). Each week, she shares her stories … More »