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Harlotry: How I Separate Life From Sex Work

Without at least some kind of partitioning, sex work will kill you. More »

Harlotry: On Quitting Stripping

My bio says that I’m currently employed as a stripper, but this is not entirely true: I’ve been on vacation from work for several months now and we strippers, like all independent contractors, can’t be considered employed unless we’re actually retained by a club.

There are two reasons for the length of my vacation from work. More »

Harlotry: My Sex Work Persona Versus My Real Life Relationships

Sex work is, at its root, an incredibly elaborate game of pretend. More »

Harlotry: On The Cheapskate Regulars Who Waste A Stripper’s Time

In every strip club there are time wasters. More »

Harlotry: Stripper Feet Are Gross–But Men Will Still Pay To Suck On Them

Stripper feet are gross. My feet are especially gross. More »

Harlotry: On Giving My First Lapdance & The Absurdity Of Them In General

I do not understand, nor have I ever understood, the appeal of a lapdance. I know how to give what I’ve been told is an excellent lapdance, but I don’t really see how one case of blue balls can be better than another. More »

Harlotry: My First Time In A Real Strip Club

Granted, I had never given or received a lapdance and my experience of hoes-and-champagne rap videos was very limited, but I had faith in myself. More »

Harlotry: My Return To Sex Work

I’m not sure if the bartending job was ever really available. As soon as I got to the club the woman in charge of personnel asked me if I was sure I didn’t want to dance. More »

Harlotry: What Kind Of Person Lies To Phone Sex Operators?

The best talk-caller I ever had was Ted. Ted called every night for two weeks, and usually talked for about two hours. Not only was I actually getting decent-sized checks for those two weeks, Ted told the most ridiculous stories. More »

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Harlotry: The Most Disgusting Words Favored By Phone Sex Callers

There are a number of words I find unpleasant. There are the standards, the words most everyone hates–moist, panties–but there are others; ‘pussy,’ ‘suckle,’ and ‘juicy’ being the worst offenders. Phone sex meant hearing all of those words (except ‘moist’) on a regular basis. More »

Harlotry: The Suicidal Man Who Called My Phone Sex Line For Help

I have written before about the way we sex workers are a great deal more than simply outlets for sexual desires, the way we must also be therapists and sin-eaters. This was never more evident than when I was working as a phone sex operator. At least once every night someone would call hoping for psychological help of some sort. More »

Harlotry: The Phone Sex Caller Who Wanted To “Hear” My Vagina

Despite the fact that I never excelled at dirty talk, and was therefore not best suited to phone sex, I did acquire several regular callers during my time as a phone sex operator. The most interesting of the bunch would have to be Dave, the sound effects man. He was also the most disgusting. More »

Harlotry: Terrorism And The Fog Of Phone Sex

I went into phone sex with bright, cheerful hopes, but all that changed within the first week. More »

Harlotry: On Having Phone Sex With Pedophiles

I had only been a phone sex operator for two days when I got my first call from a pedophile. I knew it was a possibility. More »

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