My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly four years, have lived together for three, have parented a beloved dog for two, and have avoided engagement conversion for one. We’ve been through just about everything together — sickness, health, countless jobs, friends’ weddings, family funerals, a couple lawsuits, and a bunch of awkward holiday parties. Here are the things I’m tired of hearing. More
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The internet in the 1990s may have been pretty slow, but it certainly spend up modern life. The screeching noise of a dial-up modem trying to make a connection helped drive economic globalization, fashion trends, and the third wave of feminism.
Dating in the 90s was still what we may consider old fashioned — after all, there were still no text messages or mobile phones. But there was the grunge movement, the Backstreet Boys, tapas bars, and riot grrrls. So let’s make a mix tape! Here’s what dating was like in the 1990s… More
America in the 1980s was bookended by the murder of John Lennon in 1980 and the fall of the Berlin wall in 1989. In between there was MTV, AIDS, Duran Duran, crack, Michael Jackson, and Tiananmen Square.
If dating in the 1980s had to be summed up in one word, it would be the mall. It was the best of times and it was the most consumerist of times. Guys and girls were shopping for love in all the greedy places. Here’s what dating was like in the 1980s… More
“I am woman, hear me roar,” sang Helen Reddy in 1972. And boy were we roaring. The decade marked the decline of the Vietnam War, and with it the radical hippie culture that permeated the 1960s.
Tom Wolfe deemed it “the me decade” for a reason, but it may have been called the Ms. marathon instead. The magazine and the passing of Roe v. Wade — both in 1972 — was a turning point for the modern woman. Gloria Steinem, arguably the women’s movement loudest activist, was quoted as saying “A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle.” Here’s what dating was like in the 1970s… More
The post World War II baby boom produced 70 million teenagers that literally rocked the culture of the 1960s. Young people shaped the fashion and politics of the decade, launching the Million Man March, the sexual revolution, and the British invasion. More
Dating wasn’t all cruising, pinning, and going steady. Or was it? Here’s what dating was really like in the 1950s. More
Looking back, it feels like the 1940’s were divided into two different eras: one when women were desperate for the men to come home from the war, and one the men who finally came home.
The depression was finally over! But from 1939 to 1945, rationing was in and guys were out (of the country). Eligible men were shipped off to war, and women were left to either run the household, or live in their parents’ home praying that her boyfriend returned home safely. If and when they ever came back, there weren’t enough single men to go around! All’s fair in love and war, girls. Here’s what dating was like in the 40s…
The sexy, carefree roar of the ’20s came to an abrupt whimper when the stock market crashed on October 24th, 1929. Black Tuesday would mark the beginning of the Great Depression which was (spoiler!) incredibly depressing. Any young men and women left in the country ditched their dried up farms to stand in the bread lines and look for work in American cities.
It was a shitty time to be American, and an even shittier time to be a single American woman. So what was dating like in the 1930s? Hold onto your worn-out fedoras as we explore love and life in the Great Depression… More
Did you know dating in America started in the 1920s? Yes, we have those fabulous flappers to thank for modern-day first dates, missed calls, and mixed signals. The first world war was over, and the action — and moonshine — was brewing in illicit night clubs. Small town girls and country boys flocked to the city, where the drinks were flowing and the women were wild.
>Dating in the Jazz Age wasn’t all Gatsby parties, cocktails and pearls. Here’s how you would have dated in the 1920′s… More
After revealing the 10 worst men on the internet, I think it’s only fair that I take a stab at the ladies. Thanks for creating equality, Lilly Ledbetter.
Over-sharers will always irk the online masses, but unlike the OkCupid pervs and LinkedIn abusers I discovered in my News Feed, women seem to obsess about kids, pins, and food. Here are the worst kinds of women on the web. I just hope you’re not one of these, or you can just go ahead and unfriend me right now. Go on, I’ll wait. More
You can’t judge a website by its URL (or can you?), but you can absolutely judge a man based on his internet behavior. There are too many guys who overshare, troll, abuse LinkedIn, and ruin the moment with their obsessive check-ins. But they pale in comparison to the stalkers, the pervs, and the dudes who still have no idea how to properly use the internet. The world is full of men who are bad in bed, but here are the worst guys who are bad online… More
Relationships involve a lot of patience, sacrifice, and white lies. Not just with each other, but everyone around you! I’ve been dating my boyfriend for three years, and each year I add more lies onto the pile of deceit. I’ve found myself living some of these lies — about how we met and where we live — so openly that I get lost in the story and have to remind myself of the truth.
Read the nine lies I’ve told since I started dating and admit that you, too, have been lying your face off. More
I believe that birth control should be cheap and plentiful for all who want access to it. I also believe hormonal birth control pills are the devil.
The pill has been lauded as a turning point of feminist freedom since the 60s. Half a century later, women still pop hormone supplements like candy — despite health risks, expenses, and psychological ramifications. I spent nearly a decade on Ortho-Tri-Cyclen, Yasmin, Loestrin, and Seasonale untilI finally walked away from the prescription pad once and for all. Quitting the pill was one of the best choices I could have made, and here are 10 reasons why you should kick the BC habit, too. More
Happy late March early April, y’all! ‘Tis the season to take a week off and kick it — spring break style. Just because you’ve moved on from your collegiate adventures doesn’t mean you can’t take a few vacation days to live it up.
So are you setting up camp in Costa Rica or heading home to see your parents? Ralph Waldo Emerson once said “Life is a journey, not a destination” but he wasn’t talking about spring break. Here’s what your destination says about you… More