bald bride

Style Me Pretty featured a bride who was diagnosed with cancer nine months into wedding planning (and with four months until the big day), and was told by her oncologist to postpone her wedding until she was healthy. She opted not to postpone because she said she wanted something to look forward to in the nightmare of cancer treatment, and went through with the wedding on the original date.

The bride lost her hair in the treatment process, and looked absolutely stunning bald. While hair loss can certainly be a detriment to the self esteem of female cancer patients–think about how much of our beauty standards are wrapped up in hair–this bride, for lack of a better term, rocked it. She looked absolutely beautiful. In fact, she had seamstresses design her stunning head warp using her mother’s veil, and it’s one of the most gorgeous bridal head pieces I’ve ever seen.

When a Facebook friend shared these beautiful photos, I couldn’t help but be completely awe struck at the grace and beauty of this bride. Especially given what we know about the toll cancer treatment takes on a woman’s self esteem in addition to the physical toll, it was hard not to feel full of joy looking at these photos. The bride, for her part, had her dream wedding, and said “I still felt like a beautiful bride even without any hair.” And quite obviously, she was.

What I love about this is how it proves that even if your wedding isn’t identical to your original conception of your dream day, it doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter if your venue isn’t quite what you expected, if some uninvited guests show up, or if your hair is not what you had envisioned. It’s not worth getting caught up in these things–the most important thing is to be with the person you love and the community you’ve created around your relationship.

The rest of the beautiful photos can be seen over at Style Me Pretty, and they’re worth a look (if not to get more awesome views of that head wrap). I don’t know about you, but I’m going to hold my head up a little taller today and try to think less about my own physical imperfections. None of it really matters.

Photo: Andrea Jacobson