You may have seen some coverage around the internet of the “Bodies Aren’t Ugly, Bullying Is” project, spearheaded by blogger Jes Baker of The Militant Baker. It’s a terrific project, one that I’m glad is getting more major attention. But what’s even better is that Baker has just penned a seriously amazing essay titled “Things no one will tell fat girls…so I will.” And I think Baker’s essay should be required reading for everyone who has a body, no matter their weight or their gender.
Writing on Australia’s Daily Life site, Baker lays out fourteen statements to overweight women, including “You don’t need to exercise every day to feel better about yourself,” “You’re not stunning despite your body, you’re stunning because of your body,” and “When people say you’re gorgeous, believe them.” My personal favorite quotes comes in regards to self-love:
You’re allowed to fall in love with yourself. I promise. This will be the scariest thing you will ever do, and that’s okay. It will also be the most amazing (albeit super gradual) experience you will ever have. It doesn’t make you narcissistic. It doesn’t make you vain. It is liberating in every form of the word.
OMG. Yes. Yes. Yes! That quote makes me feel like a woman in a 90s Herbal Essences commercial. So much yes.
Baker’s essay seems particularly timely, both in light of Baker’s bullying project, the recent Twitter trend of #fatmicroaggressions, which exposed the constant undercurrent of fat shaming in society, as well as the recent attention given to Maria Kang and her particular brand of fat-shaming. In my opinion, women can’t hear this kind of empowering, positive, honest discourse enough. In a world that constantly tells us and shows us what’s wrong with our bodies, our faces, our hair, our skin and our lives, Baker’s essay shows fat girls (and the people who love them) that we’re all just fine the way we are.
Photo: Liora K Photo via The Militant Baker on Facebook