Earlier today, we talked about how ridiculous it is that people are freaking out over Myla Dalbesio, the size 10 model who was one of the faces of Calvin Klein‘s “Perfectly Fit” campaign. She spoke to ELLE about her experiences and, upon doing so, incited some seriously ridiculous reactions regarding her size, which falls in between standard (0 – 2) and plus size (14+). Some people think she’s too thin to be considered an accomplishment to see in ads; others think she’s “too pretty” to be plus size, which has its own WTF connotations; some felt she was too big to model, period. Suddenly, all sides of the table were pulling a serious Gretchen Wieners.
Obviously there are so many issues with how plus size humans, particularly women, are treated in society, fashion, and entertainment. We’re so delusional about what women are “supposed” to look like that when we see a plus size model’s body, we literally think it must be photoshopped. But body shaming goes both ways–if you make fun of a woman for being thin, you are giving the world a free ticket to call another woman too fat. And when it comes to the label “plus size,” both the “she’s way too pretty to be plus size” and the “LOL how dare you say she’s plus size? She’s so thin!” reactions are damaging.
While Dalbesio herself has said she loves being able to open the discussion floor, but given some of the reactions, I think we’ve got a long way to go before body acceptance becomes the true norm. Let’s take a look at some of the most difficult, damaging, and overall ridiculous Twitter responses to this model’s breakthrough campaign, shall we?
1. The Sick, Sad World Reaction
— Ellen Mc Laughlin (@Ellenmcl) November 10, 2014
It’s a sad and twisted world that we need to divide women into two categories based on size–which we do not do for men–but the line is what makes it sad and twisted, not where the line is.
2. The Disgusted Reaction
— Lyndsey Farnham (@rindypindypops) November 10, 2014
You realize you can be perfect AND plus size, right?
3. The Misuse Of “Body Shaming” Reaction
— Nikki Louise (@nikkilouise15) November 11, 2014
“Body shaming” is when you are critiquing a person’s body in a negative way based on what it looks like. Body shaming is not calling a person “plus size.” Again, you can be beautiful and plus size–they’re not mutually exclusive.
4. The “She’s Too Pretty To Be Plus Size” Reaction
— Marc (@marclaw69) November 11, 2014
I always find it sad when guys compliment women by saying “you look thinner than you think,” because that’s exactly what has created size superiority and the idea that some bodies are better than others. Plus, good god, the phrase “a woman with meat on her bones” is one of the most disgusting in the English language.
5. The Non-Believer Reaction
So you guys legit want us to believe #MylaDalbesio is a US size 10?? That’s a UK size 14.. If that’s her size I’m a size 0.. Rubbish!!
— Folasade Agbaje (@QueenMelisende) November 10, 2014
Women carry their weights in different ways, and honestly, is it really necessary to lose your shit over the fact that somebody might not be the size you think she is? We’ve already established that different brands have different size guidelines anyway, so it’s all fairly subjective.
6. The “I’m Very, Very Stupid” Reaction
— Va. Texan ☆ (@VaTxn) November 10, 2014
Unless this is a parody account, I’m pretty sure this person is one of the worst people to hang out with, ever.
7. The Simple Reaction
— Stefan (@stefansimi24) November 8, 2014
Nothing like the good ol’ “too fat” to remind you of why we absolutely need more models like Myla.
8. The Unbelievably Misguided Reaction
First of all, “anorexia models” is a grammatically silly phrase. Second, “plus size model” isn’t a proper noun. Third, and most importantly, this is such an offensive reaction to all women–thin, plus size, in between, whatever.
9. The Confused Reaction
The fact that Calvin Klein’s plus-size model is a size 10 absolutely disgusts me — amy (@amyspurr) November 11, 2014
Did everybody miss the part where Calvin Klein didn’t call her “plus size”? (Unless I completely missed that, but I have yet to see the brand label her plus size anywhere.) In her ELLE interview, Myla actually says “no one even batted an eye” regarding her modeling versus, say, Lara Stone. 10. The “But What Does That Make Me?” Reaction Maybe you are! Who cares? The word “fat” isn’t a negative adjective unless you make it one. Instead of freaking out over where the fat versus non-fat boundaries are, perhaps spend time thinking about why we think being plus size is a terrible thing and work to change those attitudes.
11. The Sad Reaction
Saddens me that this girl is classed as a “plus size” model. No one’s saying she’s fat but the label just sounds off http://t.co/GScXxOKCif
— Carrie Grey (@CarrieGrey) November 11, 2014
Well, she’s actually not classified as “plus size” by the fashion industry or Calvin Klein, though it is important and noteworthy to acknowledge that she’s a different size than most models–plus or standard. And maybe she is what’s considered “fat” (which is highly subjective unless used in a literal way describing the fat on a human’s body), but who cares? That’s still not an inherently bad thing.
No, so many girls hate their bodies because they’re told that no matter what they look like, it will never be good enough. Girls and women hate their bodies because they’re told that their worth is based on their appearance. Whether they’re being told they weigh too much or too little, the idea that our looks determine how significant we are to the world is what makes us hate ourselves–not the classification of a model as “plus size.”