Perhaps you’re a mom, and you’re tired of having your kids chase after you all day. Or perhaps you’re not a mom, but you still need a place to pretend that there is nothing else happening in the world besides aesthetically pleasing wall decor and the bottle of whiskey in front of you.

That’s the idea behind the mom cave, or the “everyone needs a place to drink and cry” cave, as I like to call it. If you live alone, lucky you — your whole place is your cave. But if not, the idea is simple: pick a room or a private space, slap some paint on that shit, decorate it, and call it your own.

The LA Daily News recently ran a somewhat cheesy description of the trend, saying:

“It’s a fun, feminine retreat tailored for scrapbooking, sewing, blogging, reading or whatever the woman of the house enjoys doing most in her spare time.”

So, yeah, maybe scrapbooking and sewing are a little stereotypical (although if that’s your thing, more power to you), but the idea is the same. Lay claim to some space.