Dear Glossers, you certainly influence what gets written here quite a bit, and this is a perfect example. Yesterday, after writing about not referring to people as “classy” versus “classless,” two commenters brought up an excellent point:

I wanted to just reply, but then I realized that this is a pretty excellent topic for discussion because it’s one that I’ve been moderately struggling with for years with regard to my fashion choices.

First, I’ll get personal: I wear a 34-36D bra, which I’m pretty dern satisfied with. I have quite wide hips and, I must admit, my head is a little wide as well, so if I didn’t have large breasts, I think I’d be kind of shaped like a very strange dumbbell. Although my breasts aren’t Eva Green a la The Dreamers perky, I like them and I like to think they like me, too.

However, I used to to want to balance my shape out too much by wearing extremely padded bras in sizes too large for me (38C) because I didn’t know any better until two of my close friends informed me that not only was I wearing a too-big bra, I was also missing out on the wonders of unpadded bras. So I went to the store, found one, put it on and, oh my goodness, I felt amazing. I looked better, my clothes fit better, but most of all, I felt better.

Then, I tried going totally braless at their suggestion. Both of these friends also have relatively large breasts close to my size, so I trusted their opinions though I was simultaneously terrified I’d look ridiculous without a bra on. They assured me, though, that I wouldn’t regret it. So this time, when I found a shirt I couldn’t wear a bra with because it would show too much or look silly, I decided to just opt for no bra. IT WAS AWESOME. Free boobin’ it is, to me, one of the most comfortable things in the world now. As I write this, I’m wearing this cheap but incredibly cute bra which has no padding and looks quite nice. But having 0% support with large breasts is not always considered acceptable because there is, as our two lovely readers pointed out, a serious divide on who can go braless and who can’t.

When I, or anybody else I know with large breasts, wear a low-cut shirt, there’s a notable difference in how they’re looked at compared to how a woman with smaller breasts does. When a person is on the thinner side with smaller breasts, it’s seen as somewhat chic to show her cleavage or go out without a bra; it’s sexy, stylish and bold-seeming, or something like that. With large breasts, it’s seen as too sexy, trashy or attention-seeking.

Think of it as Posh Spice versus Ginger Spice syndrome: despite wearing short dresses and low-cut tops, Posh was seen as a chic and sexy. Ginger, on the other hand, wore the same type of clothes, but on a much curvier body, and was viewed as some form of sex bombshell. Women with larger breasts are often afraid they’ll look “saggy” without a bra, but the main reason I have for not wearing one is that it’s insanely comfortable (I have fibrocystic breasts so any pressure on them often hurts like hell), so I try not to think about the way that they look. However, there are plenty of times I’ve heard somebody say about a woman that she “needs to wear a bra,” but who says that’s true? Why do we need to wear one when some of the time, it’s both comfier and more stylish to go without?

In the event you’ve got large breasts, try going braless for a day if you haven’t yet tried it. Try a dark color and a flattering cut, just so long as you’re comfortable with whatever you’re wearing. Same goes for if you have smaller ones! If you love the feeling as much as I do, don’t let anybody tell you that you “need” to wear a bra.

Pic via CNN.