Millionaire Matchmaker Patti Stanger–whose entire life, mind you, is orchestrating marriages between venal, shitty people and rich, shitty people–keeps making tone deaf comments about the gay community and keeps backtracking about how she’s not ignorant and she’s got lots of gay friends (yup, she’s one of those). And it happened again!

This time, however, she made a stupid, marginalizing comment about gays and tried preempting criticism all in the same swing. She walked the runway for the Heart Truth Red Dress Fashion Show last night and discussed which famous gays she’d like to work her shitty magic on:

“If I could put him, and oh my God, let me think for a second. Tom Ford. That’s a fit. Is Tom Ford and Marc Jacobs a fit? ‘Cause they both have those muscles and ripped bodies. And they both look straight. I’d date ‘em. They’re both gorgeous. And I didn’t mean that as a generalization, and don’t you gay people get all snippy with me. I meant that as a compliment!” Patti, it turns out, has a personal connection. “Daniel, my ex, is cousins with Marc Jacobs, from Massachusetts.”

You hear that, Tom Ford? We know you’ve been with your partner for 25 years and all, but you and Marc Jacobs would make such a cute couple because you’re both gay and also muscles and stuff! And that awful lady from TV would date you, despite your gayness. And you look straight! Which is totally a compliment.

Nice try, Stanger, but your defense is as weak as your judgment.