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Um hey, Rashida Jones? I love you. I want to continue loving you. You’re going to need to cool it on the mean comments about how other women dress.

A few months ago, my entire worldview shifted when the usually charming Rashida found herself at the center of a major backlash. After the Parks and Recreation star went on a Twitter rant about young female celebrities who need to “stop acting like whores,” she wrote an article for Glamour to explain her position to those who found her comments offensive and slut-shamey. “There’s a difference, a key one,” she wrote, “between ‘shaming’ and ‘holding someone accountable.'” I totally agree with that statement (and with Julia’s really great post about why we need to define “shaming” better), and that’s why it sucks so bad that I have to hold Rashida accountable today. Her latest comments aren’t about making the world a better place or trying to end the commodifying of female sexuality. They’re just… kind of mean.

In an interview with The Guardian, she made a point of slamming the “LA Barbie doll look,” saying,

It’s weird that everybody wants to look like everybody else. I love what you can do with fashion, but that look is just not my nature. I like conservative dressing. I don’t like to dress to tell people that they want to have sex with me.

There’s no rule in the Perfect Feminist Handbook that says you’re required to love every single woman’s style and taste. Okay. That last sentence still really irks me. She’s implying that women who like to present themselves sexually are 1) just sheep who aren’t smart enough to resist the pressures of society, 2) just making themselves into objects for men to look at, 3) not as evolved as people who like to dress conservatively.

Also, there’s something pretty problematic about the idea that your clothes are capable of “telling people that they want to have sex with you.” I’m definitely not accusing Rashida of suggesting that women deserve to be assaulted if they dress provocatively– she’s absolutely proven that she’s above that– but comments like these build up over time, and they contribute to a culture in which “sluts” are dehumanized and “she was asking for it” is an acceptable thing to say.

In a perfect world, Rashida’s words would be powerless; they’d just be her opinion. IRL, she’s a public figure and a role model. Her young fans are learning that it’s a good idea to put other women down, and they’re learning that how they dress helps determine their worth. And that seriously sucks.

Via The Cut / Photo: Getty