Engagement rings are a fraught proposition, and they can be especially complicated when they’re being purchased for a second marriage. But a recent survey supports conventional wisdom and says that yes, second wives get bigger rings.
According to The Cut, there’s an average of a $2,000 difference between the cost of an engagement ring for a first marriage and an engagement ring for a second. That was actually a smaller increase than I expected to see, until I read that that $2,000 difference was a more than 100 percent increase.
First rings in the U.K. cost an average of $1,320. Engagement rings for second marriages cost $3,295 on average. And if the aisle is walked down a third time, the third wife’s engagement ring costs an average of $1,535 more than that. (Still a big spike, but not as big of an increase as between first and second.)
The Daily Mail positions this as “news that will enrage first wives,” but it just seems obvious to me. Rather than saying anything about the value or status of first wives vs. second wives, it just seems to indicate that people on their second marriages are obviously older than they were when they first tied the knot, and people generally make more money later in life.
That’s supported by the words of the surveyed marriers themselves. 38 percent of men surveyed said the increase was because they just had more money at the time of their second engagement, so more was spent on the ring. Also, half of the men surveyed said that when it came to their second engagement, they just let their fiancees pick their own engagement rings. Only 30 percent of the men said they asked their first wives to pick out their own rings.
Nearly half of the surveyed men said they spent more on the second ring in part because they had more faith in the marriage, and thus considered it safer to spend a little more on the ring. But that can’t be taken all that seriously, considering that the question was asked of them at a time when the first marriage had already ended and the second had not. I attempted to flip an egg in the frying pan this morning, and right after having dropped the first one, I would have said I had more faith in the second egg not falling than the first. (Actually I dropped them both. I’m not very good at flipping eggs. For the third one, I used a spatula.)
Via The Cut