A fun way of shaming someone you know or don’t know is to look at their outfit and say: “she really shouldn’t be wearing that.” I hear this all the damn time, and it’s the socially acceptable way we’ve invented to say “that woman over there is fat and that clothing is made for thin people.”

Look, anyone should wear anything they fucking want, and it’s unbelievable to me that people think otherwise. It’s one thing to say “that outfit isn’t flattering on her” (although, who asked you?), but “she shouldn’t be wearing that” connotes entitlement. Specifically, a larger woman is not entitled to the same clothes as a thinner woman—she has no right to dress in the same style as her thinner peers.

There’s been a sartorial trend this summer along the lines of sideboob: the under butt. If you haven’t had the pleasure, under butt occurs when a woman wears shorts so short that the lower segment of her butt, or the under butt, is exposed. I don’t really see the appeal, but I also think women should be able to put whatever they want on their bodies and show their under butts as they please. Far be it for me to suggest that a woman should cover up just because I think something looks a little silly. Here’s the strange and surprisingly thing about under butt— it is the great equalizer of things to be judgmental about. For the first time in recent memory, I’m hearing “she shouldn’t be wearing that” about girls with conventionally attractive, slim bodies. We are equally judgmental about all women if they show too much of their asses. Step forward?

Clearly, we have no trouble demeaning women not just on the basis of size but instead because she’s a woman daring to expose her vulgar body. Can we just decide to throw out the phrase “she shouldn’t be wearing that” entirely?  Of course she should be wearing that. It’s clothing that she presumably bought from a store with money with the intention of wearing on her body. Whether we say this based on size or because too much butt is showing, can we just for fuck’s sake agree that people can wear what they want, when they want, and show as much of their butts as they want?