Ah, the joy of family. They always know just what you want for the holidays, right? Haha, I made a funny.

All the goodwill and generosity in the world can’t help extended family who sees you twice a year buy a decent present. It’s not their fault. They know very little about you and your life. They’re guessing what might interest you based on your gender, age and a general Gifts.com stereotype. It’s just not a recipe for a perfect and thoughtful gift that you’re giving to enjoy and appreciate for the rest of your life.

What I’m saying is that this situation is no one’s fault. It’s just something that happens. We should all stop being ashamed and embarrassed that we’re going to trade out these gifts the minute we get home. It’s just a part of the holidays.

Now that we’ve accepted reality, let’s talk about what to do with that set of Minnie and Mickey salt and pepper shakers. Should you return it to your local department store for $17.65 in merchandise credit that you’ll forget in the bottom of your purse? Or should you wrap those suckers up and save them for next year’s office gift exchange?