I don’t mind Anne Hathaway and I really don’t know much about Adam Shulman, but I do know that the pair look quite happy together (not to mention her wedding dress was awe-some!) and I generally love joyful couples, so I like seeing photos of the pair. It’s just sort of nice to see Anne Hathaway love some kinda sweet, handsome-like-a-Gosling-cousin guy, though she readily admits that this was certainly not her first try at a solid quality of relationship partner.
According to a source over at People, after the SAG Awards on Sunday, Hathaway was trying to play matchmaker all night to other folks and noted that she “met a lot of bad ones” prior to being with Shulman. The matchmaking sounded fun — who wouldn’t want Anne Hathaway trying to set them up with some random entertaining friend of hers? — but when I read this story, I mostly thought about how frustrating it is to experience numerous unpleasant folks in your dating escapades while searching (both actively or passively) for somebody who doesn’t suck.
In the event you haven’t already gathered this, I’ll sum it up for you briefly: my love life has been a bit of a mess for several years, but I’m finally starting to determine how to best straighten things out so I can stop repeating my stupid mistakes. I, too, have gone through a “lot of bad ones” and, though I am by no means in sight of any form of finish line (not that I really believe there has to be one, actually), I do feel like I am seeing the light in terms of not continuing to be interested in the bad ones, nor feel like those are the only ones I deserve.
It seems like nearly every woman I know, when asked about her past, always sounds more pessimistic about it than the men. This is a gross generalization, I know, but while we often acknowledge that our undone relationships teach us what we don’t want anymore or what to avoid in the future — even if we do not actually do so later on — almost every guy in my life never speaks about his previous relationships as having taught them anything besides lessons on that specific person, rather than relationships as a whole. Then again, this could be a selective thing contained within the group of people that I know, but still: it’s weird, and it makes me wonder if it’s better to focus on the past or to simply move on from it. Or both? I don’t know.
In any case, I hope the best for all of you. I hope none of you actually feel like it’s some sort of rite of passage to have to experience shitty relationships before finding the one you want most, if you even want one at all (it’s okay if you don’t! You’ll spend less money at Christmas and never get locked out of the house by your cat!). Let’s collectively make 2013 the year we all avoid the bad ones. Happy dating, dear Glossers!
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