bride sings look at me

If you’re planning a wedding and are deeply concerned that as the bride, you will not be the center of attention as you down the aisle, you may want to consider adding a performance element to the whole undertaking. Why have every eye in the room on you when you can have every ear on you, too? Arianna Pflederer faced that exact conundrum at her wedding last year, and the video of her singing Carrie Underwood’s “Look At Me” to her groom at the altar has blown up overnight. Yikes. She couldn’t have a picked a song with literally any other name?

Following what was apparently a family tradition, Pflederer stood at the beginning of the aisle, sang the song in its entirety, made everyone cry, and then got married. While some wrong people are heralding this as an amazing dedication of love, it’s making the faces of rational people sting with discomfort. Sure, call me a spinster, a crone, bitter, or my personal favorite, in need of getting laid, but I just can’t get behind this type of thing. Yes, it’s their wedding and inexplicably they didn’t invite me to it, but what does this say about weddings nowadays?

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Weddings suck. Best case scenario, the couple goes out of their way to defray the massive cost of attending and throw one hell of an amazing party and you get to happily celebrate two people in love. But are we really at the point where being the center of attention in that capacity isn’t enough? When did it start being okay to have song and dance numbers (I fault that “Dance Forever” down the aisle video as the instigator of this trend)?

Okay. It’s your wedding–do what you want. To be fair, she has an excellent voice and is a talented performer. But can we for a second try to think analytically about why everyone is flipping out about this? Why are we encouraging this behavior? Weddings are about couples getting married, making commitments, and celebrating with their community–I don’t understand why the goal has become MOAR ATTENTION NOW. It’s great to see a confident woman owning her talent with poise, but there’s a difference between speaking up and demanding that the world listen and beating a dead horse.

Photo: Youtube // [h/t Huffington Post]