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Still bummed about that time it looked like Victoria’s Secret was starting a sexual assault prevention campaign by selling underwear emblazoned with glittery consent slogans… and it turned out to be fake? Me too. Luckily, the activist group behind the faux lingerie site has now created a real, tangible product that tries to send the same message. Why say it with just words when you can say it with words and condoms?

Created by FORCE: Upsetting Rape Culture, these new “consent condoms” are just normal, functioning rubbers whose packages feature cute designs and slogans along the lines of “Consent is asking every time” and “Drinking is not a crime, rape is.” Codirector of FORCE, Rebecca Nagle, has this to say on their website:

Consent needs to be a mainstream idea and practice. We need to see pop culture examples of healthy sexuality and respecting boundaries as much as ‘blurred lines’.  Communicating boundaries, needs, and desires is hot! We need a sexual revolution that makes practicing consent at the front of having good sex.

Amen to that. While it’s always weirded me out when people refer to consent as “hot” or “sexy” (it’s a bit too much like “not murdering people is a fun weekned activity!”), maybe these kinds of snappy slogans will be a reluctant future feminist’s introduction to the conversation. And I’m cool with that.

Of course, I can’t really picture a scenario in which someone who wasn’t planning on checking in with their partner every step of the way sees a condom wrapper and has a SUDDEN REALIZATION about the importance of consent, but I don’t think that’s really the goal here. Even if these condoms don’t serve to educate anyone new about how to fully respect their partners, it’s cool that FORCE is trying to move consent conversations out of Gender Studies classrooms and feminist Tumblr communities and into the real dating world. Maybe a condom will never “remind” someone not to take advantage of another person, but maybe it’ll be a conversation starter at a party, or maybe its presence in a purse will remind an abuse survivor that they have the right to say yes or no. These little novelty products probably won’t put a stop to sexual assault as we know it, but that doesn’t mean they’re worthless.

Via Think Progress / Photo: Say It With A Condom