I have voiced my attempted support of Taylor Swift‘s busy little love life and how I feel sometimes, she is a bit demonized for simply doing the same thing countless other artists have done before: dating, breaking up and writing about her breakups. Just about all of my friends hate Taylor Swift, and while I may find most of her music a bit annoying (albeit totally catchy-annoying), I have generally felt that she gets more flack that she deserves for dating fellow famous people and then not keeping it private. However, she keeps doing things lately that are making it harder and harder to defend her actions.* Now, she’s just straight up pissing me off.
In her recent interview with Vanity Fair, Swift did something a bit strange: in addition to answering some of writer Nancy Jo Sales‘ questions herself, she refused to discuss her own love life and instead appointed an anonymous friend to give information on her behalf instead. Weird, right?
Well, the friend shared some stuff that would interest likely Swift’s fans: she and Harry Styles had an “on-again, off-again” relationship and that the pair split the first time after he was captured by tabloids kissing another girl. The source also confirmed Swift’s relationships with Jake Gyllenhaal, John Mayer and Conor Kennedy. With the first two, the friend says, “She was really young and they were in their 30s, and she got really hurt. So it was like ‘That hurt — this won’t. But then it did.”
On that topic, Swift herself says:
“For a female to write about her feelings, and then be portrayed as some clingy, insane, desperate girlfriend in need of making you marry her and have kids with her, I think that’s taking something that potentially should be celebrated — a woman writing about her feelings in a confessional way — that’s taking it and turning it and twisting it into something that is frankly a little sexist.”
You know those people who do stupid things, then come up with incredibly overwrought excuses with entirely too many specifications to be the truth? Yeah… But seriously, the primary difference — as many of our commenters and writers have pointed out — between Swift and most musicians is that she writes songs so absurdly specific that they actually use names and extreme details. Plus, she makes fun of her exes during live performances at awards shows. Wut the wut?
But it’s what the singer said in the interview regarding other women and some humor that held some seriously aggressive (and obnoxious) tones to it.
“You know, Katie Couric is one of my favorite people,” Taylor Swift tells Vanity Fair contributing editor Nancy Jo Sales on the subject of mean girls in general and in response to an incident at this year’s Golden Globes, where Amy Poehler and Tina Fey mocked her highly scrutinized love life. “Because she said to me she had heard a quote that she loved, that said, ‘There’s a special place in hell for women who don’t help other women.’”
While I don’t support people being assholes to famous people simply because they’re famous, I do fully support Poehler and Fey being able to playfully poke fun at the love life of somebody who publicly discusses it. Ever notice how people rarely joke about the love lives of Michelle Williams or Natalie Portman or Kevin Spacey? Yeah, that’s because they don’t regularly go around making fun of their past partners whenever possible in front of live audiences. If you can make fun of somebody in a public forum, so can they. Are Fey and Poehler going to that ‘special place in hell’? Well, if they are, future hell just got a whole lot more hilarious.
Oh, and the other thing that’s totally weird that no media outlet has seemed to notice: that anonymous source claims Harry Styles ‘chased’ Swift for a year, then was caught kissing that girl, and then “after Swift ended the relationship, he pursued her for the better part of a year until she finally took him back.” Styles, for the record, literally just turned 19 last month. If the pair broke up in January after nearly two years of this ‘pursuit,’ doesn’t that mean he was 16 when it started? Please tell me I am not the only one who is grossed out by this. Yes, that means she was just 21, but as somebody who’s 23, I am pretty sure that during my senior year of college, I would not be caught in this type of predicament with a high school student.
(Note: obviously, Swift is a successful, wealthy and semi-beloved performer who does not need my ‘help,’ but I do think it’s always worth noting when women’s relationships are seemingly treated with more scrutiny than men’s.)