With my birthday less than a month away, all I can do is think about me. Granted, this really isn’t a change from my usual thought process, but at this point in the year it goes into overdrive. It’s also at this point in the year that I recall some of the gifts I’ve received — the good ones, the bad ones, the ones that were never given. You know, all that great stuff.

A few jobs ago, I was given a gift from my boss on my birthday. I was somewhat surprised because I had been there less than a month, and her generosity truly moved me — until I opened it. I looked at the box hoping that maybe she had placed the gift inside it, but no. It was indeed The Rabbit vibrator and there it was in my hand, a gift from my new boss. That was the year I turned 25; I was light-years away from being as in touch with my sexuality as I am today. I was horrified and I thought for sure I just might cry from embarrassment.

What followed next, still haunts me to this day: “I’ll even let you leave early so you can try it out. I just can’t wait to try out my new toys!”

Yes, this is what she said to me. Did I mention I had been there for less than a month? Do I have to point out that she was my boss and that we didn’t have that type of relationship because I had JUST STARTED? And it also wasn’t an atmosphere for such a gift. If someone from The Gloss gave me one, it would be an entirely different story. But my days at The Gloss were faraway and I was speechless as I stared at the pink rabbit looking back up at me.

As usual, I took a poll of my friends that night to see just how weird this was. Everyone agreed, and even one friend came clean about the fact that her boyfriend’s mother had given her a vibrator for her birthday one year with a note attached reading: “It can be our little secret.” What? How does that make any sense? Like me, she didn’t have that type of relationship with his mom, and couldn’t understand why she was given it. My friend was 23 when she received it.

At what point does vibrator-gift giving become inappropriate?

 

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