Despite my impulsivity and the fact that I was in Las Vegas three days ago, I have somehow managed to not get married. The majority of my friends have not yet been married, either. Therefore, I am more than a little unknowledgeable when it comes to the idea of wedding etiquette (wediquette?), but I was still pretty shocked when I read that a recent study discovered 8 out of 10 couples had sold their wedding gifts.
British gift card company One4all conducted a survey revealing 82 percent of couples admit to selling their gifts from guests on sites like eBay. While I already had the inclination that plenty did so, I am just surprised it’s such a high percentage of people who have done it — but I think it is, in some way, understandable.
First of all, the list that the Daily Mail included in its article on the topic involves more than a few gifts that should probably never have been given (so props on getting rid of ’em, couples). These include, but are not limited to:
- A coat hanger from a reputable hotel
- A duck shaped egg bowl
- A banana
- 50 cents
- A TARANTULA
Don’t get me wrong; I love tarantulas. But, guys: do not give live pets for weddings. Do not do it. It is not cool and unique and memorable. It is terrifying and, in all likelihood, an awful idea.
Now, regardless of how whack the presents received are, I still find the idea of selling your wedding gifts to be pretty acceptable in its own way. If you receive four toasters by accident, giving away or selling a couple of them is understandable; it would be more wasteful to just let them sit, rusting away in the corner of your kitchen cabinet because you’re afraid of a perceived break in manners.
Honestly, I think my biggest issue with weddings is the emphasis put on gifts and gaudiness over the actual love and union, in general, so the idea of a friend selling a wedding gift I bought for them — barring some incredibly sentimental present like a personally-done painting — is not actually that bad. I would want my friends to have an easier start together because of the money they received; I would want them to be able to utilize my gift to the best of its powers.
At the same time, I can certainly see how this would be an issue for many people. So, I ask you, dear readers!
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