You know how sometimes, you look back on things you’ve done dating-wise and realize you could’ve treated people so much better, and you feel terrible? I still have this weird, banal guilt over making my seventh grade boyfriend of two months (i.e. 2 years in middle school) feel really bad by spontaneously breaking up with him in front of our lockers, no real warning given and never bothering to ask how it made him feel. To be fair, I have since done worse things in relationships, but I’ve always apologized; not doing so keeps a sense of closure from occurring. Perhaps this is a concept not unfamiliar to one John Mayer, whose number of celebrity ex-girlfriends and list of jerklike quotes are both rather high in quantity.

In an upcoming interview with CBS Sunday Morning, Mayer admits to host Anthony Mason that he realizes he was “just a jerk.” Considering he once called Jessica Simpson, one of his numerous famous exes, “sexual napalm” during a Playboy interview in 2010 and called Kerry Washington “white-girl crazy”, I’m inclined to see him this way. But he also seems to realize that people aren’t all that into him.

“It’s very liberating when you finally realize it’s impossible to make everyone like you,” Mayer said, adding, “I wanted everybody to like me. I thought I was one shuck and jive away in every direction.”

Well, yeah, when you make ridiculous comments about women several times to the media, some people are going to find that…unsavory. Granted, this quote may have been taken from an odd context, but it sounds like he thinks that behaving this way was going to get people to like him, and that makes me rather bummed out. Not necessarily sad for him, but sad that saying such things could seem like a way to gain a positive image. He doesn’t necessarily apologize, but he does at least sound somewhat apologetic which is better than nothing, I suppose.

The full interview will air on CBS on February 10th (this Sunday) at 9 in the morning. I doubt I’ll be watching it, but it is at least somewhat comforting to hear a bit of a womanizer admitting that he realizes his past actions (A) have hurt others and (B) caused him to be unlikable. Self-awareness is not something that I associate with many celebrities, and though I’ve found Mayer ridiculously obnoxious in the past, I can at least find this to be a positive personality trait, even if it is mid-development still. Who knows? Maybe dating Katy Perry is doing some serious good for the guy.

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