In the following video, we bear witness to a man setting up a surprise wedding for his girlfriend. Unbeknownst to Colleen, her boyfriend Shawn has assembled over 200 of their closest friends and family in an event hall (or bar, difficult to say), and amassed all the things she had described to him as being part of her perfect wedding: Martha Stwerat light fixtures, for instance, and mason jar centerpieces.

When she shows up to the location, thinking she’s there for a retirement party, Shawn gets down on one knee and asks her to marry him.

The whole thing took him a year to plan.

Have a look:

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So. The question is, is this the sweetest, most adorable thing anyone could ever do for their partner, or is it the most audacious and presumptuous overstepping of boundaries the world has ever seen?

When I first saw the name of the video, I was inclined to call it the latter. What kind of delusional person tricks their partner into showing up to a ceremony where they’ll be expected to make a theoretically lifelong commitment? What if she didn’t want to get married? That’s some shit.

But! The good news is, per the end of the video (spoiler alert!), they had already planned to elope. The happy couple was plotting a trip to Vegas in a few months for a private-ish ceremony.

That said, it’s still pretty bold to just go ahead and plan a wedding, without including…you know, the person you’re planning to marry. It means that he either knows her so well that he was fully convinced that this was something she’s want, or he was so taken with his own idea that he hadn’t stopped to really consider whether she’d like it too.

Either way, to be fair, they both look pretty thrilled by the end. But still: what do you think? Is it something you’d want?