Because sluts like to bite their fingers and shit...

“It’s called a slutty phase. It basically means I’ll do what I want at night then slut-shame myself in the morning: ‘Chatel! You slut!'”

When I tweeted that a couple weeks ago, I watched 14 Twitter followers drop off. As someone who doesn’t have many to begin with, I noticed it almost right away. The same thing also seems to happen when I bring up anything that confirms the fact that I don’t believe in god. But since it’s my Twitter account and basically an intimate look into my ultra fascinating life, I’ll tweet whatever slutty, atheistic shit I please.

As we’ve seen, especially over the last few months thanks to Rush Limbaugh and his (fruitless) attempts to shame women (Sandra Fluke in particular), as Tallulah Kidd so eloquently wrote about for us just a few weeks back, the term “slut” is up for some major debate. While there are those who are adamantly against the word, going so far as to make these somewhat ridiculous YouTube videos as a means to educate just how “negative” the word is, there are women (and men) on the other side of the spectrum, like Kidd, who want us to “take back” the word. Her revolution is in the same vein as Dan Savage and his attack on the word “fag;” yet another term that evokes strong feelings on both sides.

After that tweet a few weeks ago, I shrugged it off. I believe whole-heartedly with Kidd on her stance on the word, the fact that labels in general suck but since they’re a part of life, you might as well embrace it. I didn’t think about it again until a couple days ago when I was spouting off to a gay male friend (who never ceases to remind the world around him that he is indeed a “cock-sucking fag”) about my “slutty” phase. The conversation wasn’t offensive, in either one of our minds, and covered all the usual gory details about our sex lives as well as the horrors of the world, and the latest New Yorker. Yes, we talk about things other than sex.

During our dinner, he probably called me a “slut” easily two dozens times, and each time I laughed harder than the last. But what I wondered when I walked away from that evening was is it ever OK to call someone else a slut? Sure, we can embrace a revolution, take back the term and make it our own, but if I were to call someone, whom I know to be promiscuous a “slut,” am I doing an injustice to my gender and being offensive? Are we only allowed to use the word on our terms?

I, personally, don’t have an answer, but as I continue along, thoroughly enjoying my slutty phase (or maybe it will end up being an “until-I-die” phase), I can’t help but be compelled to contemplate just how far we can take the term in regards to others before we become no different than fucking Rush Limbaugh. Should we get a hand-written permission slip before we’re allowed to toss it around amongst certain company?

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