I was reading Jay McInerney’s Story of My Life – it’s the novel where the main character is based on Rielle Hunter! – and there’s a scene where some men are talking about how great the main character is in bed. One asks if she gave blowjobs as though blowjobs were not completely the norm. And then it’s revealed that no, she doesn’t do blowjobs. But it’s cool. Still great in bed. Blowjobs are just really kinky.

This completely amazed me. The book was published in 1988. In twenty years, have we gone from thinking of blowjobs as a perverse extra to something people start doling out in high school? I talked to my male friends to see if any of them didn’t expect blowjobs.

Disclaimer: As is always the case with Real Talks where we interview men, we’re not suggesting you change your behavior. You shouldn’t, and frankly, I’m not sure men who completely expect blowjobs really deserve them. Consider us just freaky scientists, boring holes into the brains of members of the opposite sex, asking embarassing questions on your behalf.[ITPGallery]