Topic: Blowjobs

Real Talk: Things We Thought Men Liked In Bed (And Were Wrong About)

Real Talk: Things We Thought Men Liked In Bed (And Were Wrong About)

Before one becomes sexually active, one has a couple years fraught by hyper awareness of sex and a preoccupation with being attractive. In this time, one develops a lot of ideas about what sex will be like. Most of them turn out to be absurd. A large portion of our ignorance can be attributed to 1) terrible sex advice from magazines and 2) the professed knowledge of our equally clueless friends. This kind of thing leads to the (still widely propagated) myth that, while performing oral sex on a man, one should hum “The Star Spangled Banner” for that… little… something… extra. This exact piece of horrible advice and much more ahead… More »

The Misanthropologist: Lines You Won’t Cross

The Misanthropologist: Lines You Won't Cross

In thinking about this week’s Misanthropologist, I thought it might be interesting to talk to some sexually active friends living in New York and ask them if there was a line they wouldn’t cross in bed. I assumed everybody’s got their something: some act that just seems too gross, too weird, too base, too demeaning. Further, even if you do occasionally participate in this one act for, say, the sake of your partner, are its bad qualities just too distracting for you to get off? More »

Don’t Worry, No One Takes College Lesbianism Seriously, Sorority Girl

Don't Worry, No One Takes College Lesbianism Seriously, Sorority Girl

Our friend Anna North at Jezebel picked up on a great article from the Cornell Daily Sun wherein an advice columnist told a sorority girl who thinks she might be a lesbian to out herself. Right. Now. Not because it means she might get more play (which is the best reason to do this), but because her sorority sisters might be uncomfortable living with a lesbian. Specifically, she said: More »

The Misanthropologist: Does Getting A Blowjob From A Guy Make You Gay?

The Misanthropologist: Does Getting A Blowjob From A Guy Make You Gay?

Growing up in a sheltered lefty enclave in northern California, I developed a few unusual ideas about life and the universe: 1) if you’re going to jack some of your parents’ weed, ask politely, 2) shopping at farmers’ markets is akin to a great act of humanity and when you walk into Whole Foods, you’re participating in the preservation of the planet and also ending wars and nursing baby animals or some shit and, in all seriousness, 3) being gay is a-okay. It wasn’t until I was shipped off to the cold cruel world of private liberal arts education that I realized not everybody was as comfortable with non-hetero love.

I guess I never thought about sexuality in terms of gay or straight. I kind of always just thought you like who you like and that’s how it goes. I recognize now that this could be perceived as extremely naïve: outside of far left bastions like my home town, there often exist rigid definitions of sexual identity: gay, straight, bi, queer, trans, godless heathen, craven whore, etc. More »