Topic: children

An Unplanned Pregnancy Doesn’t Have To Ruin Your Life

An Unplanned Pregnancy Doesn't Have To Ruin Your Life

Growing up in my childhood home I heard a common refrain: don’t get pregnant when you’re young because it will ruin your life. My mom had me at 23 and though she never expressed resentment towards me, I knew she gave up a lot to raise me. I knew her life didn’t look the way she wanted it to look, and I was determined to follow her advice and not make those same mistakes. More »

Why I Stopped Saying ‘Someday’ When It Came To Having Kids

Why I Stopped Saying 'Someday' When It Came To Having Kids

I didn’t plan to be an old mom. I got married at twenty-three and wasn’t even sure I wanted kids. That ambivalence toward motherhood stretched through the first several years of my marriage. I didn’t think parenting was for me—I’d never babysat as a teenager or changed a diaper in my life. My husband Jay is in the Navy and his back-to-back deployments meant having a child wasn’t just on the back burner—it was on a burner in someone else’s kitchen. “Someday when we have kids” was a phrase we used often, but it never seemed real. A resolution for a distant new year, maybe. More »

If Baby Girls Are Divas, Then So Are Baby Boys

If Baby Girls Are Divas, Then So Are Baby Boys

Babies are difficult by their very nature. They can’t even hold their own heads up for the first few months of life and we all know the amount of general upkeep they require. That is why I find it incredibly annoying that so many people say baby girls are “divas”, as if being a normal, fussy baby is somehow uniquely feminine. More »

The Gender Divide In Children’s Books Is Hurting Our Kids

The Gender Divide In Children’s Books Is Hurting Our Kids

Picture books are pretty much universally acknowledged to be awesome. There’s a handful I can recite by heart, full of love and emotion, even when it makes my kids sigh. But then, children move into early and middle grade books. This is where the problem lies. I knew, kind of, that the books my sons and their friends read are very gender specific. Then I worked one afternoon at the book fair with my third grader and kindergartener in tow, and my feminist heart almost broke. More »