Topic: Communication

Science Says You Probably Do Talk More Than Your Dude

Science Says You Probably Do Talk More Than Your Dude

I have always been told that I talk a lot by every person in my dating history. Though I typically date outgoing people, I tend to be the one who has no qualms with speaking to strangers at bars, chatting on the phone for hours and being super friendly to literal cats on the street. My exes tend to make fun of me for this, saying that I talk too much, but I have always wondered how much of that is me, or whether women talk more than men on the whole. More »

Sexing the Strangler: When Kink Goes Too Far

Sexing the Strangler: When Kink Goes Too Far

Thomas was a writer who was working on his second book and was an adjunct professor at Columbia. I think it was mostly the professor part I liked. He wasn’t my “type,” at all. I didn’t find him exceptionally attractive or witty, but he was so damn smart I just couldn’t get enough of him. Sometimes when we were fooling around he’d recite his doctoral thesis, and honestly, it was pretty hot; even if the premise of his thesis still remains a mystery to me to this day.

Having a few years on me, and several more sexual experiences than I under his belt, he was really adventurous in bed and always looking to push the limits. It seemed harmless at first: adding some toys into the mix, taking turns with tying each other up… basic stuff that we all try out at some point or another. One day he asked me what my “safe” word was. Having never needed a safe word in my life, but being slightly versed in the world of BDSM, I knew what he meant and laughingly said: “apple.” I was eating an apple when he asked me the question. More »

How to Stay Friends When You Grow Up

How to Stay Friends When You Grow Up

Yesterday, TresSugar posted an article about how to stay friends with your high school friends once you’re in college. But for those of us who are well past our college years, staying friends with someone often means navigating marriage, kids, faraway moves, and demanding jobs. So how can you stay friends with someone you’ve known for years even when you’re all grown up and living on opposite sides of the world? Here are a couple of things to keep in mind: More »

Things That Matter More Than How Many People You’ve Slept With

Things That Matter More Than How Many People You've Slept With

Recently, Lemondrop wrote a post about whether you should tell your partner how many people you’ve had sex with. Not only is the answer to that question “No,” there are many other things that you should tell your partner instead.

•Whether you’ve have or had any STDs. This one should go without saying.

•What kind of contraception you’re using or would prefer to use. I use the NuvaRing, so I often have to explain to guys what it is. Since they can feel and notice it during sex, a little context goes a long way. Also, if he is about to pull out a condom, this is a good time to mention your latex allergy. More »