I moved to New York a little over one month ago. So far, I love my job, I like my apartment, I enjoy the food and, despite the many warnings I received prior, I have already made some very, very snazzy friends. In all honesty, the only thing that has been really stressful is the deep and unsettling feeling that I am not pretty enough to live here. More
The other day, our writer Amanda reflected on how she wishes she could learn to take a compliment after an uncomfortable incident with a flattering partner. For those who hate links, the gist of the situation: he called her sexy, she got annoyed, he insisted she learn to take a compliment, she got angry, he got upset, she told him he would soon lose a testicle if he pushed the discussion further. As she wrote, all Amanda really wants to say to those who flatter her is, “Shut the fuck up and quit being nice for the sake of being nice,” but wondered if anybody else had advice on how to take a compliment.
Including some suggestions from you readers, here are a few recommendations for those (myself included) who have a bit of a hard time with flattery. More
Don’t go without, just because your friends are busy! Dine alone! It’s fun and you don’t have to make conversation! More
This is probably simply Present Me telling you to avoid being like Past Me More
Remember last week when we showed you how to find the right swimsuit for your body? Well, that was last week. This week, we’re going to zero in on the old albatross: the bikini. Now, any ladymag will tell you that the key to wearing a bikini is confidence! but they’ll sandwich that canny little platitude in between pages of celeb diet tips & tricks, photos of models airbrushed beyond recognition and pages and pages of expensive clothes and make-up you now think you need. But not TheGloss. Here, we give you fucking truth. This week’s Illustrated Guide will show you how to look good in a bikini… even if it kills you. More
If anyone should be doling out advice on being “irresistible,” it’s obviously me. More
It’s possible that I go overboard when it comes to saying, “I’m sorry.” Like, I do it a lot. And maybe it’s time I grow out of that. Am I the only one who is just realizing that their frequent apologies make them look a little insecure? More
Who knew hatred could be so good for your self-esteem? More
So here’s something depressing: in a new study conducted for the Renfrew Center, researchers found that women don’t use cosmetics to embellish their natural beauty, so much as they use cosmetics to hide their shameful flaws. Of 1,292 women surveyed, 44% (!) say they “feel negative about themselves when they are bare faced.” More
Diane von Furstenberg was spewing out some wise advice on the Twitter today in a chat sponsored by Women in the World. The legendary designer, philanthropist and president of the CFDA wanted the chat to focus on women’s confidence in particular. “I wanted to chat about confidence because as I have become empowered myself, I like to empower other women,” she tweeted. You should pay attention to these 140-character long tidbits of great advice as Diane’s company was recently ranked as the second most influential social media house in fashion by Forbes after Project Runway. The New York-based label has 276,010 Twitter followers, cementing her reputation as a powerful social influencer as well as fashion figure. And after all, this is the woman that invented the wrap dress. Check out her Tweets on being more confident.
Personally, I’m feeling kind of sleepy. I’d say “hungry” but no, not so hungry right now. I couldn’t tell you whether or not I’m feeling empowered because I’m pretty sure that term is ludicrous.
I just want to say that the canapes at the Estee Lauder presentation Ashley and I attended were fantastic. Really, superb. These lovely little sashimi things on rice cakes. Just great! And champagne, too! And such a fun space. They had this elevator that was like an entire room, and it was super cool! It was like being on the Tower of Terror without the terror! Yes. There’s a lot to be said for that event.
But now that I’ve said all there it to be said for it, let’s talk about the rampant hypocrisy of the beauty industry. More
Are you a narcissist? If you really are, you probably won’t care. Or else, you’ll read this article and think, “Yes, but that’s for people who can’t back it up. Boo-ya!”
This November, the task force behind the DSM (the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders) announced that Narcissistic Personality Disorder had been removed. The New York Times had a cheeky take on the matter: A Fate That Narcissists Will Hate: Being Ignored.
I’d been thinking about the topic of narcissism ever since 2005, when I was working to establish myself in stand-up comedy. An ex-boyfriend found my website and emailed to say that the site was “the most narcissistic thing I’ve ever seen.” More