Topic: consent

Robin Thicke’s Bid To Win Back Paula Patton At Last Night’s Concert Reeks Of A Publicity Stunt

Robin Thicke's Bid To Win Back Paula Patton At Last Night's Concert Reeks Of A Publicity Stunt

As we all know, America’s couple Robin Thicke and Paula Patton announced their separation earlier this week, amid years of cheating rumors. It looked like things would be a pretty typical Hollywood split–joint public statement, eventual divorce, and not much to it. However, TWIST! Robin announced his intentions to win Patton back at his most recent concert, and now everyone ever is deeply invested in the redemption love story of our generation. OR IS IT? More »

Kickstarter Apologizes For Rapey Seduction Guide Project, Takes Steps To Redeem Itself

Kickstarter Apologizes For Rapey Seduction Guide Project, Takes Steps To Redeem Itself

Many people grew angry at Kickstarter yesterday when the crowd-funding site failed to remove a project funding a “seduction manual” written by a Redditor known for advising men to play fast and loose with the concept of consent. Now, the site has posted a statement explaining why they didn’t remove the project in time, apologizing for letting it slip through the cracks, and detailing the steps it is taking to make amends. More »

How Do You Define ‘Rape?’

How Do You Define 'Rape?'

This week’s episode of Girls began with two characters, Adam and his new girlfriend Natalia, about to have sex for the first time. Natalia tells him she’s ready to have sex, and, as he approaches her, says that, ““I’m on the pill, but will you come outside of me, just in case? I don’t like to be on top that much. Or soft touching, because it tickles me and takes me out of the moment. But everything else is OK.”

Whereupon, a friend of mine rolled their eyes and pointed out that this was incredibly unsexy, because you’re, “Just supposed to figure that stuff out.” And I agreed. It seemed like laying out exactly what you liked and didn’t like beforehand would ruin some of the fun exploration that can accompany having sex with someone for the first time. But then, I also admitted, it’s hard to “Just figure that stuff out.”
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Have You Ever Used Alcohol As An Excuse To Have Sex?

Have You Ever Used Alcohol As An Excuse To Have Sex?

So, this is depressing, but not all that surprising if you’ve ever spent any time around young people who drink and/or been one yourself. According to studies published by social work professor Laina Bay-Cheng of SUNY Buffalo, many young women use alcohol as an “excuse” to act out sexually in ways they would not normally feel comfortable doing. According to her, this is just one of many reasons why it’s so hard to get young people to stop drinking themselves into oblivion. More »