I’m going to go out on a limb and say that friends with benefits generally fail because the relationship is neither friendly nor beneficial. More
Back before Bullish was even a tiny bovine-embryo in TheGloss’s collective unconscious, I wrote a column about shutting down street harassers in which I suggested a single line to silence most harassers, while refusing to play their game: “That’s not an appropriate way to talk to a woman you don’t know.” (How do you resond to that? “Yes it is, ma’am”?)
Whether you are in salary negotiations or merely trying to do more and better work than the person in the next cubicle, sometimes all you need is one sentence.
Here are some sentences that I’ve found extremely useful in improving my career and life. More
There are a lot of articles online about how to tell if you’re in a good or bad relationship. All of those articles are bullshit. If you are confused about whether or not you should be sticking with a relationship, this is the only chart you need. Unless you have facial paralysis and only frown. Then I guess you just need to be able to interpret your own feelings. Incidentally, I modeled the girl in the chart off of you, sorry you don’t have eyebrows. More
Recently, a colleague of mine — a 24 year old woman in the market for a new assistant — told me that her previous assistants had complained that she never said thank you. “I hate saying thank you to people just for doing their jobs! Why should I have to thank them?”
(Note that, on Mad Men (Season 4, “The Suitcase”), Peggy Olson similarly complained “You never say thank you,” leading Don Draper to thunder, “THAT’S WHAT THE MONEY IS FOR!”) More