Once we were in the car, the two cops driving continued to ask us questions, despite the fact that they hadn’t yet read us our Miranda rights. More
During my almost five-year career as a sex worker, I have experienced work-related fear exactly twice. The first time was at the very beginning of my adventures in the sex industry, when Grant, the gentleman I got my revenge on last week, outed me to my mother.
The second time was two weeks ago when I got arrested. More
Longtime readers will remember “Grant,” the client who outed me to my mother at the very start of my career. Grant was a creep, plain and simple, and his borderline stalker behavior was one of the two most terrifying moments of my career.
What I didn’t know at the time is that Grant is what’s known in the industry as a hobbyist. More
I’ve been a sex worker in a community structure three times, all of which have been different, and I prefer working in a group to working independently for a number of reasons. The main reasons is, of course, that by working in an environment with other women who not only know exactly what you do, but do it themselves, you have a built-in support network. More
I believe a lot of what helped me deal with not only the rape itself, but also the abuse, was my background in sex work. More
I remembered there was a four-letter word for fucking people without their consent and I wondered if that was what had just happened to me. Was I suddenly a statistic, that one in four or one in three or whatever the number is of women who have been in some way sexually abused or assaulted? More
In retrospect I ought to have noticed that something was amiss just off the fact that we had only been together for about seven months–Stanley had already made me cry more times than all of my exes combined. However, as I’ve said before, my brain was missing. “If it doesn’t hurt,” I told myself, “it isn’t really love.” More
Extricating oneself from an abusive relationship is never easy. More
Cathryn Berarovich is something of a renaissance sex worker; she was until recently employed as a stripper but has held numerous interesting jobs in the industry (and she’s currently an excellent columnist on this very website). Each week, she shares her stories … More
At the moment the money is exchanged, everyone knows what’s going on and from there on out the prostitute has to help the client forget there was ever a transaction involved. More
One of the most common questions people ask–especially when they find out I used to be a whore–is whether my experience in the sex industry has made me better at sex.
They generally assume it has. More
I am not better than sex work, not even a little bit. More
Without at least some kind of partitioning, sex work will kill you. More