Topic: lonely

When Things Don’t Work Out And You Are Afraid Of Being Alone Forever

When Things Don't Work Out And You Are Afraid Of Being Alone Forever

If you are alone, I can’t give you much advice on how to change that; I can only say that you’re not really alone, because we’re all somewhat alone, but that doesn’t mean very much anyway. But if you’re afraid of being alone, I can tell you that I know it’s terrifying.

People who spend most of their lives alone aren’t necessarily “good” at it, but they’re better-adjusted. People who spend most of their lives alone will tell you how much better it is, and how much easier it is, and how you should really stop being sad about it because they aren’t sad about it and that makes them stronger. And if you are like me, you’ll nod and say, “Yes, you are so strong, that must have been so hard, thank you for the advice.” More »

Chasing Thirty: Alone In Argentina

Chasing Thirty: Alone In Argentina

From the day I arrived in Argentina, there was a line of questioning I came to expect. I blend in pretty seamlessly in down there because of my dark hair and olive skin, but the moment I opened my mouth it was clear I wasn’t a native. So people asked where I was from, followed by wondering if I was I traveling alone, followed by wondering why was I traveling alone. I got this from everyone: taxis drivers, waiters, baristas. A woman alone in a foreign country provokes a variety of reactions from curiosity to concern to suspicion. I learned that the simplest way to answer this question, given my bad Spanish was to say “for an adventure” and leave it at that. More »